Does any one have any recommendations on how to deal with a break up?

I lived with my b/f for 2 years and were together for more than 4 years and we separated this weekend because he needs a break. Im not sure whats going on but i know hes not cheating.





How do I deal with this situation, I never really planned out my future without including him and im more worried financially now. What can i do to prevent depression and feeling so lonely and like nothing makes sense now. I am definitely NOT suicidal but im sure alot of you understand this feeling.





If it helps, I know we both still love each other but maybe our relationship became to much of a routine. Its suppose to be considered a break but im taking it as a break up becuase i want to start planning my own future so that i wont be in this situation again.





Please advise.....Does any one have any recommendations on how to deal with a break up?
Surround yourself with positive people (friends, family), go out and socialize and definately find someone to talk to about your problem.. i think once you talk to someone close to you, just them listening will make you feel so much better.





Also, get involved with something that takes up your days/nights when you are alone.. ( Go to the gym, go to the movies with friends , take up a hobby/sport).. Things get easier overtime, believe me! But at this point right now, you'll need people there for you.. after time passes, you will be content with being alone....





Word of advice: Do not get involved with anyone immediately, it might feel good, b/c u have someone around, but once that feeling fades with that new person, it only gets harder to deal with the past situation...





Best of luck... Remember if it really is love, he'll come back! :) Everything you go through in life, opens your eyes to newer and better expereinces!





Does any one have any recommendations on how to deal with a break up?
First thing:


Create a future for you. So no matter what happens, you will be able to stand on your own feet.





A relationship should be like a merger of two stable companies. Not a bailout.





Second thing:


Sounds like he is wanting to stress you out, to make you come crawling back to him and agreeing to anything he wants. If he wants a break, give him just that. Break your foot off in his....., as you kick him out the door.
';Needs a break'; = will have sex with someone else 99% of the time, in my opinion. If you like that idea, stay with it.





';On a break'; is LAME. Either you are broken up or you are not.





The best thing you can do is dump him so you can get this monkey off your back and not feel constricted any more.
Get busy planning your financial future. Pronto. Even if the two of you decide to get back together.
I agree with Allison.
I agree with Alison - being on a ';break'; means it gives someone a justifiable excuse to do what they want and not be held accountable for it. Not saying he is out there banging every woman he sees - but it is certainly unfair for him to leave you hanging like that not knowing what to expect. You are doing the right thing by assuming that your life with be without him and you should just watch out for yourself now. Keep yourself busy busy busy - and try to be around friends or family members. It'll be hard to avoid the places that remind you of him, but within time that will fade too. What has always helped me is to take a short trip somewhere....anywhere, even just an hour away....so you remember that there is a large undiscovered world out there with so many other people and you are reminded that he does not have to be your world after all.