I just broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and I cant seem to get over it. Everything reminds me of him. We were on and off for about 5 years and now we are completely over and hes with someone else. I cant stop crying about it, I cant believe that it was so easy for him to move on so quick eventhougth we had talked about marriage a couple of weeks ago. I knew that things werent working out the way we wanted them to, but I thought we could work it through. Any advice on how to deal with it, it would really help out. I really cant rely on my friends or family for advice. Thanks...How to deal with a break up? plzzzz!?
My heart breaks just hearing how much pain you are in. Yeah, love is unfair sometimes. Actually it isn't love that is unfair, but the circumstances surrounding it are often not what we want them to be or feel they should be.
Let yourself cry and mourn as much as possible. The more you try to hold it in, the longer it will last. Take good care of your body. The better you feel physically, the more psychologically stable you will be. Avoid seeing or talking with your ex. I'm not telling you to stop loving him or stop feeling the way you feel. What am I saying is to recognize that there are things that we have no control over. We cannot have control over other people's actions and choices. You can't control what he does or doesn't do.
You can take one year or so to go through this stage. It all depends on how willing you are to let go of the past, work through all your feelings for the purpose of healing them, and receive the lessons from your experience. Take one day at a time, and before you know it, you will be loved again.
There is a light at the end of this tunnel.How to deal with a break up? plzzzz!?
Men Replace,, Women half to move on.
well the thing is hes had long time to deal with the thought and hes just not told you till last minute. you need to get rid of all the things that belong to him or memories and you need to clean the wardrobe out and start over brand new get out and meet people not be by yourself and you will soon discover there are millions of men out there and some day you will find the right person for you.
Dear Nutty,
The first thing you need to do is tell yourself that things like this happen for a reason (they REALLY do). This young man was NOT for YOU. There is more going on than what you know, and you are well out of it.
In order to get yourself out of your depression, get up and get out of the house. Join an exercise class - physical activity goes a long way to getting you out of your unhappy mood.
Get yourself a hobby that you have always wanted to do. Get involved. Join a class. Take up knitting (I've never been able to master that....*sigh*) There is a lot that you can do to get you in a happier mood.
Good luck, hon, you can get through this and it will be better. :)
You need to let go and move on. He was not meant for you. Cry your eyes out for one day only, then promise yourself things are gonna change for the better for yourself and stop crying, give yourself time to heal without him but don't shed any more tears for him, he doesn't deserve them. You need to get over him NOW.
You need to go out and see other faces, go out and meet new friends and have fun. Life is too short to stop living when someone stops loving you.
Love yourself, and trust in God that you will eventually meet that special someone. If you don't go out with friends, then just go out by yourself and hang out at nightclubs or bars or where ever there are people your age having fun.
Whatever you do, don't stay home crying, he's out there having fun, forget about him. Good luck and don't hook up with someone immediately, just find friends for now, have fun.
There's only one way to get over a broken heart: start dating as much as you can until a day passes in which you realize that you haven't thought about him. It takes awhile but it does happen. It will happen. You learned something important by being with him. You learned that you can have something that satisfies you on different levels - now go go GO and meet and date until you find someone who even offers a little of that. It's a start.
its going to hurt for a while (5 years you were together) him being with someone else so quickly is just so he doesnt think about you this is ther person that is going to help him pass his time so he isnt in misery im sure your on his mind more than you know you cant just snap your fingers and forget the history you all have together..........the saying time heals all wounds it true take time a lot of time to just enjoy being alone it doesnt happen very often enjoy life
Write, write, write. Write all about your feelings, write poems, write memories, write it all down. Then put it away - in a drawer, or rip it up or even burn it. It's a cliche, but time heals all wounds. It will get better, and he will be a memory.
Realize theres more to life than relationships lik family, friends and God. Maybe you should worry about things that are actually important and are needed. Dudes who treat girls like crap deserve no consideration if hes wit some1 else already hes trash consider yourself seduced by a classic player. And from now on live your life for yourself and not others.
mine was 7 years and it wasn't easy to move on. But i was able to overcome it (after 2 years). Enjoy! and someone out there is much better than him
Taking it one day at a time..get involved in life and activities. Take a trip do yourself a make over that always brings out the happier persona in you.
MOVE ON MOVE ON WUT U NEED TO DO IZ TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND TREAT YOSELF 2 A DAY AT THE SPA. P.S. GET U A NEW MAN
give up any secret hope that things will work out. he made his choice. now get on with your life.
Find a support group, go to counseling, do something. I know you must love this guy, BUT, sounds like he's burning the candle at both ends. (easily moved on from you, but doesn't want the new girl to know where he's going). You've got a week already under your belt.... keep plugging along. Evidently he knows that you'll take him back if this new deal doesn't work. Take one day at the time....yes, they get long, and at times, you think you can't go on. Find that inner strength, and get out there and find someone that will put you up on that pedestal where you belong...
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First of all, if you were on and off for about 5 years, it will probably take you about 2 and a half to get over the relationship fully. A week is not enough time. Give yourself some time to get over it. Let yourself cry, listen to songs that remind you of him, wallow in it for a while. Then move on. Find things to do other than that. Go for a walk, call a girlfriend, go to the zoo, do something else. But trying to push yourself to get over a relationship only makes it seem worse. Allowing yourself to grieve will actually help you move on. Good luck honey, and remember, respect yourself and your dreams of what a relationship should be for you. Certainly not what he has put you thru...you deserve better!
WOW!
WELL IF THAT BOY WAS WITH YOU 4 5 YRS AND HE WANTS TO LEAVE YOU 4 ANOTHER GURL AND A WHOLE CITYY THEN BOY IS NOT WORTH IT HUN
SO DRY BUT UR TEARS
BUT IF YOU CANT HOLE UP THEN I NEED TO TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL MAYBE HE CHANGE HIS ABOUT EVERYTHING.
We were on and off for about 5 years . . .
Your mistake was not moving on with the first off . . .
What do you do? you go through it and eventually it'll decide when you had enough, it's called time heals all wounds . . .
as far as family and friends, forget it, your the one feeling the pain not them. When you stub your toe on the bed it's you who says ouch not the bed . . .
good luck but you won't need it, trust me
you'll heal over time and be ready to go
through it again, perhaps wondering why
and if your realy crazy to go through it again . . .
no your not crazy, your just human . . . but i wish you a gentle healing any ways cause pain is pain and we've all been there. good luck and take care . . .
You have no idea how much I can relate you to right now,I have also been with my boyfriend (ex) for 5 years and things were going fine untill a few weeks ago, and we even planed on getting married....., But let me say this, he is only with another girl right now to get over the pain that he IS having, he's trying to move on and forget about you, because to forget is the only way to feel normal again, as for your pain, time is the only cure, it will take you a while but you WILL get over it, im still in the early stages of getting past this myself, just do things to take your mind off of him, or hate him, I know this sounds odd but the more you hate them the more you get over them fast, but the best cure is time, no one can really tell you what to do because nothing will really work just time itself, Im sorry I couldnt give you much more of advice, but you'll see what I mean in time, I hope you get happier soon, god bless.
The best TV episode that deals with this is from ';Sex and the City'; entitled ';ex and the city';. If you like that show (or not) it has a great message about breaking up--I do hope you can find the episode!
By the way, I am sorry for what you are going through right now.
Hi there, I as well have been through a nasty separation. It feels like the world is going to end, but believe me it does get better. Its all very new maybe he just needs some time out, and then he will realise that you are the one for him. I broke up with my current partner and were separated for 9 weeks now we are happier than ever, sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder.
I hope this helps hang in there, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
You ended it. Somewhere down the line you knew it wasn't meant to be - UNLESS you let someone ELSE influence your decision! I wouldn't give the girl he is with, for the past week, the title of gf just yet! He is obviously upset and NOW seems to want to GET OUT OF TOWN since he feels as you do - EVERYTHING around him reminds him of you!!!
If you REALLY LOVE him and WANT to be with him then WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR??????????????
Don't let ANYONE DESTROY it!!!
Never let anyone get in between what you and your man want for each other!
You were soooo close to getting married WHAT HAPPENED?
You said this, ';I really cant rely on my friends or family for advice'; - I think YOU'RE letting everyone BUTT in - GO GET HIM and maybe you should follow his LEAD and move elsewhere with HIM - You are SO IN LOVE - you need to FIX this before he's gone forever and one day you WILL regret letting him go and being the fool who listened to your family and friends!!!
I'm sorry to hear that.
Let me quickly explain something to you. When a guys seems to ';get over someone quickly'; they really aren't. They are too hurt inside and too full of pain to deal with it head on. I would bet that the reason why he is moving is because of the break up. It pains him just as much as it pains you, if not more so! What women have to understand is that guys take it differently. This seems to be the only way to deal with his pain. And the only way he knows how.
Hope this helps you understand a little bit better.
Good Luck!
Well, if he you guys broke up, then he's not the one for you. Just remember, it's his loss. He is missing out on a great girl. I think that you should move on, but you don't have to until you're ready.
I know it's rough %26amp; really hurts. Cry if you have to %26amp; at least let it out %26amp; not keep it all inside. Now you find out he's moving away anyway %26amp; you would have lost him thru that. It sounds like he's making a LOT of changes in his life period. Breaking up w/you, moving, now not even telling his ';new'; g/f. Just know at some point in time someone new w/come into your life. I know that's no doubt the last thing on your mind, but it's a true statement. Someone w/come along %26amp; who knows but that he w/end up being Mr. Right! Just hang in there the best you can %26amp; maybe knowing he was going to move away anyway might be of help to you. You w/find someone else in the future, just have patience. At least you found out now than after it was too late Just hang in there the best you can %26amp; when one door closes, another one opens!
just because he seemed to moved on doesn't necessarily mean he has.He might just be trying to get over you.Moving away might make it easier for him. The girlfriend probably is filling a void right now she probably means nothing to him.
easy to say. not easy to do. but move on. Just think of yourself +3years from now, and your still broken up, how much time do you want to allow one person to control your life? aren't there enough hours wasted sleeping every day to worry about what he is doing? Friends, family, only way to go. nothing lost by hanging out with your friends and meeting a better guy. Makes for a cute story for your friends: heart broken, being out with the girls and a guy asks your friend for your number... Did they hook you up 3 years from now or what???
just try to move on
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