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First break up ... how to deal ?
I had my first boyfriend in december, and unfortunatly .. we broke up. At first, i was all for it, but then we sort of kissed and i felt differently towards him. i loved him more. then i asked him to get back, and he said lets wait two weeks. but halfway during the two weeks, i found out he liked MY BESTFRIEND. so i asked him, and he didn't deny it, and i asked him since when? and he said the day we broke up. which really pissed me off, 'cause she was going to date him. now i haven't talked to him in about a week, because im still in love with him, or i feel so.. and i want to get back. but i heard he got a girlfriend.. and its only been 2 weeks? im really lost and confused. did he ever love me? or was he just using me? what do i do .. this is my first break up. please help meFirst break up ... how to deal ?
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How do I deal with a break up?
My boyfriend and I just recently broke up december 1, he told me that he wanted to put our relationship on hold so that way I can get my life in order, he said that he wanted to be friends and I was cool with that, everything was going good until I found out that he is seein someone else it broke my heart into pieces, he told me the other day that he missed me, that he still loves me and that he made a huged mistake of breaking things off with me he wanted to get back together, i was fine with that then he gose and dates someone else. wtf?!?!? i have been trying to move on with my life but everytime i do i get set back..... how do i go about dealing with this, I still love him and miss him i just don't know what to do anymore
please help meHow do I deal with a break up?
Move on! Life is too short for these kinds of problems with him!How do I deal with a break up?
Hmm sounds like this guy wants to see other girls but keep you warmed up in case he changes his mind. What did he mean you get your life sorted out? If he loved you he would stay with you and help you with that stuff. Move on from this guy please!
He is using you. If he wasn't using you, he wouldn't go behind your back seeing someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't let him waste your time. I wish you the best. Merry Christmas !
The only reason he said he made a mistake is more than likely because the girl he wass saying did something and he wanted attention. TRUST ME. Just ignore him and move on with your life.
please help meHow do I deal with a break up?
Move on! Life is too short for these kinds of problems with him!How do I deal with a break up?
Hmm sounds like this guy wants to see other girls but keep you warmed up in case he changes his mind. What did he mean you get your life sorted out? If he loved you he would stay with you and help you with that stuff. Move on from this guy please!
He is using you. If he wasn't using you, he wouldn't go behind your back seeing someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't let him waste your time. I wish you the best. Merry Christmas !
The only reason he said he made a mistake is more than likely because the girl he wass saying did something and he wanted attention. TRUST ME. Just ignore him and move on with your life.
Best ways to deal with a break up?
not childish ways like get back at him but how to move on and be ok. i was with him for 13 months he was my first love its hard but im doing good i was just wondering if anyone had any good advice.Best ways to deal with a break up?
Just keep yourself busy . Go out with friends , maybe take up a hobby . Just don't sit around and do nothing . Stay busy mami
Just keep yourself busy . Go out with friends , maybe take up a hobby . Just don't sit around and do nothing . Stay busy mami
How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend of your husband's trying to break up your marriage?
My husband and I had a big argument and an old ex girlfriend of his would not stop bugging him until he told her what was wrong... Now she has damn near ruined everything how do you get rid of the ex?How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend of your husband's trying to break up your marriage?
she should not be involved. period. she was a part of his past and you are his present and future. if he intends to keep you in his life he needs to cut ties with her. it is disrespectful to you and your relationship. How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend of your husband's trying to break up your marriage?
First of all your husband has no business carrying on a friendship with his ex-girlfriend. You should have put a stop to that on day one.
Second you need to tell your husband that he either wants to make a go of his marriage and continue having you as his wife or he wants his ex-girlfriend to take your place, because he can't have both of you.
His ex-girlfriend can only be a problem in your marriage, if you continue to allow him to be friends with her. She needs to go and you need to put your foot down.
Its not about you getting rid of the ex. The question is why is he still dealing with her, and hes with you. Her problems are her own, to worry about. You are his wife, put your feet down, and give orders. Basically your husband needs to decide you or her. Shes a grown *** women, she should be able to handle her own. How the hell is she still in contact with him, or why is my question...Handle your business girl, cause if it was you, handling an ex-boyfriend he would not be having it.
You don't get rid of her, he does. He didn't tell her anything that he didn't want to. She can't force him to speak with her or answer her questions. The biggest problem here is him, not her. What the hell is he even talking to her for?
It's not your job, it's his. He needs to put you first. This woman definitely needs to be put in her place but he should be man enough and have the sack to tell her to leave him the hell alone. Don't let your husband's wussiness drag you into a cluster f**k.
It has nothing to do with her. If you had a wonderful, happy marriage, he's truly in love with you, he won't even look at her sexually or romantically.
It's all about your relationship. Nothing about her.
You and your husband are giving this ex girlfriend way too much power...If you both stand united...she can't succeed in breaking up your marriage....no matter what she does...but it sounds like your husband doesn't have the balls to tell her to butt the hell out of your lives....
So why is He still talking to her?!
How to get rid of an ex? Stop communicating with them! Block her number, block her email and just ignore her.
This is all up to your husband if he wants to stop it he can.
Honestly another person can not break up a relationship. It's the people involved in the relationship and what they do in any given situation.
Get your husband to stop talking to her. She is an ex for a reason. Remind him of those reasons.
you gotta deal with it as a couple...like tell him not to talk to her etc..BUT dont go after the ex urself...tahts what they want...so dont fall into that trap...
Kick her ***!!!
she should not be involved. period. she was a part of his past and you are his present and future. if he intends to keep you in his life he needs to cut ties with her. it is disrespectful to you and your relationship. How do you deal with an ex-girlfriend of your husband's trying to break up your marriage?
First of all your husband has no business carrying on a friendship with his ex-girlfriend. You should have put a stop to that on day one.
Second you need to tell your husband that he either wants to make a go of his marriage and continue having you as his wife or he wants his ex-girlfriend to take your place, because he can't have both of you.
His ex-girlfriend can only be a problem in your marriage, if you continue to allow him to be friends with her. She needs to go and you need to put your foot down.
Its not about you getting rid of the ex. The question is why is he still dealing with her, and hes with you. Her problems are her own, to worry about. You are his wife, put your feet down, and give orders. Basically your husband needs to decide you or her. Shes a grown *** women, she should be able to handle her own. How the hell is she still in contact with him, or why is my question...Handle your business girl, cause if it was you, handling an ex-boyfriend he would not be having it.
You don't get rid of her, he does. He didn't tell her anything that he didn't want to. She can't force him to speak with her or answer her questions. The biggest problem here is him, not her. What the hell is he even talking to her for?
It's not your job, it's his. He needs to put you first. This woman definitely needs to be put in her place but he should be man enough and have the sack to tell her to leave him the hell alone. Don't let your husband's wussiness drag you into a cluster f**k.
It has nothing to do with her. If you had a wonderful, happy marriage, he's truly in love with you, he won't even look at her sexually or romantically.
It's all about your relationship. Nothing about her.
You and your husband are giving this ex girlfriend way too much power...If you both stand united...she can't succeed in breaking up your marriage....no matter what she does...but it sounds like your husband doesn't have the balls to tell her to butt the hell out of your lives....
So why is He still talking to her?!
How to get rid of an ex? Stop communicating with them! Block her number, block her email and just ignore her.
This is all up to your husband if he wants to stop it he can.
Honestly another person can not break up a relationship. It's the people involved in the relationship and what they do in any given situation.
Get your husband to stop talking to her. She is an ex for a reason. Remind him of those reasons.
you gotta deal with it as a couple...like tell him not to talk to her etc..BUT dont go after the ex urself...tahts what they want...so dont fall into that trap...
Kick her ***!!!
How do you deal with a getting over a guy that dated you only to have sex with you and then break up with you?
How do you deal with the fact that you lost your virginity to a guy who only wanted sex and doesn't even care?How do you deal with a getting over a guy that dated you only to have sex with you and then break up with you?
You cry your tears and you decide that this was a very valuable (and expensive) lesson learned. Now you know.How do you deal with a getting over a guy that dated you only to have sex with you and then break up with you?
I know you feel used. Learn from your experience. Next time remember that sex is a gift that should be reserved for marriage. He is only serious about you if he wants to and does marry you!
Not bad , you should be happy as everything happened with your consent . Where were your virginity when you super enjoyed the date or was it a date rape ?
better search another guy and see whether he cares and then have sex and other stuff, otherwise yu will end up in the same way.better marry someone soon.
NEVER ALLOW TO DO THE SEX THAT TYPE OF GUY.IF AN ACCIDENT WITH SEX JUST FROG ET THAT GUY LIFE LONG . THAT GUY WANTS ALL ABOUT BODY, NOT OUR SOLE FEEL. JUST FROG ET IT.
YOU REALIZE THAT NEXT TIME YOU'LL PICK THE GUY BETTER AND YOU'LL HAVE MORE SELF RESPECT NEXT TIME!!!!!
Learn from your mistakes and move on
I'm sorry to say but it seems that women today are asking for this kind of treatment. In the first place, how long did you know this guy before you let him have sex with you?
You cannot buy a man's love and affection by having sex with him. Most men are so full of themselves that something like taking a woman's virginity is like a prize he can go brag about but when they want to marry they want their partner to be a virgin. So what do you think you are to him? Just another easy woman he conquered and had a roll in the hay with.
Sorry if I sound like I'm preaching but it just pisses me off to see women fall for this kind of treatment over and over again. Don't you have at least some pride and exclusivity as far as who uses your body goes? Because that is exactly what it is. You let men use you and abuse you and then you are indignant and upset when they are tired of you and do not want you anymore.
Just think about this. What did you achieve by letting some stranger because that is what he was, hump you? Did you gain self respect? Did you at least try and refuse sex until you knew him better and if not, did you expect him to respect you after his easy conquest?
What really pisses me off is that women want to be treated equal to men and rightfully so but by behavior like this they just pull themselves down to a step below men again. They just become another plaything for momma's boy once again. In other words you achieve the same status as a whore but you don't even charge your customer.
You don't know who this man is or where he was before you let him have sex with you. He can have some venereal disease like AIDS and you don't care but oh when the time come and you realize your life is gone down the tubes then you blame men.
So let 's end it here and sorry for the harsh words but this is the real world and I've seen many women ruined by stuff like this and that is why I'm ranting against promiscuity but please try and develop some value system and rate yourself higher that a common street walker.
As far as dealing with it goes, that's it. Deal with it and try and get yourself a decent boyfriend who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
You cry your tears and you decide that this was a very valuable (and expensive) lesson learned. Now you know.How do you deal with a getting over a guy that dated you only to have sex with you and then break up with you?
I know you feel used. Learn from your experience. Next time remember that sex is a gift that should be reserved for marriage. He is only serious about you if he wants to and does marry you!
Not bad , you should be happy as everything happened with your consent . Where were your virginity when you super enjoyed the date or was it a date rape ?
better search another guy and see whether he cares and then have sex and other stuff, otherwise yu will end up in the same way.better marry someone soon.
NEVER ALLOW TO DO THE SEX THAT TYPE OF GUY.IF AN ACCIDENT WITH SEX JUST FROG ET THAT GUY LIFE LONG . THAT GUY WANTS ALL ABOUT BODY, NOT OUR SOLE FEEL. JUST FROG ET IT.
YOU REALIZE THAT NEXT TIME YOU'LL PICK THE GUY BETTER AND YOU'LL HAVE MORE SELF RESPECT NEXT TIME!!!!!
Learn from your mistakes and move on
I'm sorry to say but it seems that women today are asking for this kind of treatment. In the first place, how long did you know this guy before you let him have sex with you?
You cannot buy a man's love and affection by having sex with him. Most men are so full of themselves that something like taking a woman's virginity is like a prize he can go brag about but when they want to marry they want their partner to be a virgin. So what do you think you are to him? Just another easy woman he conquered and had a roll in the hay with.
Sorry if I sound like I'm preaching but it just pisses me off to see women fall for this kind of treatment over and over again. Don't you have at least some pride and exclusivity as far as who uses your body goes? Because that is exactly what it is. You let men use you and abuse you and then you are indignant and upset when they are tired of you and do not want you anymore.
Just think about this. What did you achieve by letting some stranger because that is what he was, hump you? Did you gain self respect? Did you at least try and refuse sex until you knew him better and if not, did you expect him to respect you after his easy conquest?
What really pisses me off is that women want to be treated equal to men and rightfully so but by behavior like this they just pull themselves down to a step below men again. They just become another plaything for momma's boy once again. In other words you achieve the same status as a whore but you don't even charge your customer.
You don't know who this man is or where he was before you let him have sex with you. He can have some venereal disease like AIDS and you don't care but oh when the time come and you realize your life is gone down the tubes then you blame men.
So let 's end it here and sorry for the harsh words but this is the real world and I've seen many women ruined by stuff like this and that is why I'm ranting against promiscuity but please try and develop some value system and rate yourself higher that a common street walker.
As far as dealing with it goes, that's it. Deal with it and try and get yourself a decent boyfriend who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
How to deal with a break up?
wow this is really depressing me. and im not the type of guy who would really do something like this, as in posting a question for the whole world to see my problem but what the heck...
so ive been with this girl for a year and a half and we just broke up because of a stupid argument on jealousy and trust. we've been arguing for a while now and its finally over... ive practically spent half of all my high school with this girl and now i just feel empty and lost. whats even worse is that its my FIRST relationship. at school she torments me by constantly hanging around with the same friends as mine making it impossible to even socialize with my friends. any tips on how to get over this, cause god its killing me...How to deal with a break up?
Be glad that it happened now instead of three years from now. Then go do something constructive with your life.How to deal with a break up?
It's going to be really hard at first. you are going to cry, then get pissed, then cry some more. no matter what the feelings you had for her will never go away. But just try you best to move on, and if you can't try to get back with her. Don't do anything stupid, like date another girl to make her jealous, cuz that would make everything worse.
i've had a similar problem... you just have to accept that its over and playing games is the next phase... if you ignore her she'll probably go out with one of your mates (in this case they aren't your mates) and there's nothing you can do about it. Join a sports team or study group or something and build a new life, keep in contact with your mates and eventually they'll either come round to. also keep this experience in mind, it helps to know where you went wrong for future reference.
It happens.
But has she done anything bad to you?
Like give you glares or looks?
It's weird questions.
But, try and go through it.
Live like you usually did without the girl in yourlife before you met her. If it doesn't reallywork and you can't get the sitatuon out of your mind, then confront her or soemthing.
apologize for what happened before?
Go to a grocery store, and stock up on Ben %26amp; Jerrys. Then go to BlockBuster and stock up on chick flicks.
Wait....
Youre a guy...sorry, cant help you.
To get over this is to know more or even get into a new relationship! To some people it seems not true or why bother to hurt yourself again. Some sugguest to occupy yourself with tonz of things so you will not think of her! Others will say, go join some sports or things that you enjoy to keep you busy! The fact is, in the middle in the night, alone, your mind will still filled of the memories of being with her. Worse, the things you do in the day might make you think of the past.... The point is, u felt alone and without love. Once you met someone you like, you would be thinking about her all the time and soon you will forget those who have hurt u. Tested n Proven!!!
so ive been with this girl for a year and a half and we just broke up because of a stupid argument on jealousy and trust. we've been arguing for a while now and its finally over... ive practically spent half of all my high school with this girl and now i just feel empty and lost. whats even worse is that its my FIRST relationship. at school she torments me by constantly hanging around with the same friends as mine making it impossible to even socialize with my friends. any tips on how to get over this, cause god its killing me...How to deal with a break up?
Be glad that it happened now instead of three years from now. Then go do something constructive with your life.How to deal with a break up?
It's going to be really hard at first. you are going to cry, then get pissed, then cry some more. no matter what the feelings you had for her will never go away. But just try you best to move on, and if you can't try to get back with her. Don't do anything stupid, like date another girl to make her jealous, cuz that would make everything worse.
i've had a similar problem... you just have to accept that its over and playing games is the next phase... if you ignore her she'll probably go out with one of your mates (in this case they aren't your mates) and there's nothing you can do about it. Join a sports team or study group or something and build a new life, keep in contact with your mates and eventually they'll either come round to. also keep this experience in mind, it helps to know where you went wrong for future reference.
It happens.
But has she done anything bad to you?
Like give you glares or looks?
It's weird questions.
But, try and go through it.
Live like you usually did without the girl in yourlife before you met her. If it doesn't reallywork and you can't get the sitatuon out of your mind, then confront her or soemthing.
apologize for what happened before?
Go to a grocery store, and stock up on Ben %26amp; Jerrys. Then go to BlockBuster and stock up on chick flicks.
Wait....
Youre a guy...sorry, cant help you.
To get over this is to know more or even get into a new relationship! To some people it seems not true or why bother to hurt yourself again. Some sugguest to occupy yourself with tonz of things so you will not think of her! Others will say, go join some sports or things that you enjoy to keep you busy! The fact is, in the middle in the night, alone, your mind will still filled of the memories of being with her. Worse, the things you do in the day might make you think of the past.... The point is, u felt alone and without love. Once you met someone you like, you would be thinking about her all the time and soon you will forget those who have hurt u. Tested n Proven!!!
What is the best way you have dealt with a break up?
Four agonizingly long days ago, I went through my first break up. I'm fourteen, and have somehow managed to drink some sort of alcohol on three out of four of those nights. I know I shouldn't drink, but I do it anyhow.
I'm just wondering how any of you girls or guys (if they even care about break ups..) deal with this sort of pain..?
I'm tired of hurting. I want to move on, but I can't see myself dating anyone else. I don't love this person I went out with, but I do care about him a lot. I can't sleep. The only advice I've gotten is to 'not think about it.' I can't just do that.. I can't take the only thing I used to think about, and just stop thinking about it. I don't really know how to move on.
What's the best thing you guys can tell me to help..?
Please..?What is the best way you have dealt with a break up?
Talk to friends and other guys!What is the best way you have dealt with a break up?
your 14 yrs old its an unfortunate part of life but there will be more of these to come trust me hes not the only guy that will be in your life.resorting to alcohol will only delay the pain because when you sober up it will still be there.time is the only thing that will heal your pain. you will undoubtedly find another guy and forget this break up or at least wont feel so hurt
I had a case like this @ 30 years ago (I'm now 52).
My best friends took me out to a bar.
Got me very drunk.
Got me laid.
That worked.
Since you're 14, the ';drunk'; advice is NOT for you.
But move on: find a new guy.
Giving yourself time to get over it and keeping busy is the only thing that heals a broken heart. Alcohol dulls the pain, but doesn't take it away. Believe in yourself. The pain will eventually fade away.
Best thing you can do is tell yourself its his lost,not yours.Do good with your life get your education look good.Do what you can to focus on yourself,make everything about you better.Ask JESUS to heal your heart this always help me to move on.
you need to realise for yourself that it wasnt meant to be. Only then will you get over the person. Unfortunately, things like this aren't constrained by time, so all I can do is wish you the very best of luck.
Just embrace the pain. If you ignore it, it will come back to haunt you. It's OK to experience bad emotions but, i'm afraid, the only remedy is time.
well if my gf were to break up with me id prolly be mad and prolly try to win her back or try to drug my way so i can either forget her or move on if she didnt want me back. but in your case if u dont wanna get back with him id just move on
my advice is to hang around your girlfriends for a while, you know girls night. pretty soon you will realize that its not bad at all to be single........ as my friend said today quote '; im single and ready to mingle!'; lol
Best way to get over someone is to get under another one ;)
keep yourself busy with your friends! you have fun and dont think about it. and delete his number forsure.
Cried and cried for days, it gets easier with time....thats all i can say. Dont worry, just keep busy. Maybe dont drink so much :s
Set his belonings to fire...it may not have solved anything...but I sure as heck felt better
keep yourself busyyyyy!
find another guy
well i went through lots of break ups and all i can tell you is just ride it out only time can fix it
get someone new, and hang with friends
I hear you and I've been there. What ever you do just don't drink cause you are only hurting yourself. You don't want to be an alcoholic. You're only 14 , you got your life ahead of you. At this age there is too many fish in the pond. I think you should live you first teenage yrs. with no worries, nobody is worth drowning yourself for. Because remember, at this stage it's just Puppy Love, so have fun with your friends and enjoy your youth.Try to keep busy..best of luck
Why does it have to be pain... if you are really mature enough to date then you will know how to handle it (a break up) and not be torn apart. I mean I can't give that secret to you it has to be learned because just telling you in words will cause some sort of confusion for you. For starters, don't sit there and mope any longer tomorrow get up and get out of the house with some friends and have fun... i wish you didn't drink, life would be easier but hey go at it the best way you know how.
Okay chances are this break up is going to suck balls. And its fine, if you don't want to be with anyone else thats fine. The pain is just because you didn't have the click. That thing that you finally feel, when you are relieved that hes gone, genuinely relieved.
Not just fake spiteful speeches to your friends about how much your glad he's gone. Those maybe feel empowering for a while but at the end you still have a throw up feeling of something hard pressing down on you. The sigh as many times as you breathe feeling.
You just have to wait. Once you've invested time in something, its going to be hard to dive into a new routine. But its like getting up at 8am every morning for three years, then suddenly having to get up at 6 and being worn out and lost and a bit pissed that you can't just go back to the schedule you had before, where you get to sleep in more, and stay up later. Its harder not to wish for 8am wake up schedule. Go ahead be a little pissed your boss says you have to get up earlier and come to work from now on. But don't let it ruin your favorite tv shows. Since life is just a bunch of ';**** yeahs!'; and ';**** ups'; you just need to find a bunch of yeahs during the course of your life. Like milestones. That way even though you have to get up at 6am and go to work you can still say, ';**** yeah! I'm getting paid today, I'm gonna go get some pizza!'; Just look for the pizzas.
its really hard, i know :( but after a while, you will heal . for me it was easier and quicker because i lost contact with them and i didnt see them everyday , but it still took 2 months, around that time . im kind of going through a ';break up'; right now, but not exactly.. its complicated, but i know how you feel and to be honest with you, im going crazyy and i really dont know what to do anymore, becuase i have never felt this way :( the best thing people say to do is to move on, but the best thing i say to do is to just stay friends with that person, because you dont want to forget, you want to forgive :) hope i helped
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I will tell you straight. GOING STRAIGHT INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOOD. When you have a break up you find somthing that you love to do. You have to strengthen yourself. Going into another relationship will not teach you how to be independent and constanly depending on love and males arms weakens the mind. Trust me i have a friend that everytime she gets cheated on or broken up she jumps to another dude. she's constantly crying over males and she acts like shes scared to be alone. Now she is loosin alot of friends and kind of including me because it makes your mind frame different and might become fake because you will put love before yourself. Your still young... you have time to settle and find the right one. build yourself, find out who you are and what you like to do. Its plenty of men in the world. dont rush.
well it really only makes sense that you need to decide if the whole breakup thing bothering you is because of the fact you broke up and not over it. you did say you was not in love with him. Or if it is the whole fact of the breakup to begin with. Like thinking why did he not like me enough or did i do something wrong to cause this or did i not try hard enough.because if its the latter then we all do that at one point in our lives figuring out what type of person we are. And if we need to change or if they do. hope i helped.
Ohh sweetie. My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago after 16 months so I know how you're feeling and I'm 22. I'm still getting over it and trust me alcohol makes it sooo much worse. Everything you feel is normal and it'll take the hurt awhile to go away. I still cry but not as much as I used to. The best thing I did was when I start thinking of the good times we had (and you do a lot) I remind myself of the bad and the fact he broke my heart. Its okay to cry, it really is and there will be a day when you don't cry anymore because you realize he's not worth the tears.
Don't just jump back into dating. It'll be awhile before you think you can move on. I'm barely getting there myself. I'm not ready to date again either but hanging out doesn't hurt. Especially if he broke up with you because you owe him nothing.
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I'm just wondering how any of you girls or guys (if they even care about break ups..) deal with this sort of pain..?
I'm tired of hurting. I want to move on, but I can't see myself dating anyone else. I don't love this person I went out with, but I do care about him a lot. I can't sleep. The only advice I've gotten is to 'not think about it.' I can't just do that.. I can't take the only thing I used to think about, and just stop thinking about it. I don't really know how to move on.
What's the best thing you guys can tell me to help..?
Please..?What is the best way you have dealt with a break up?
Talk to friends and other guys!What is the best way you have dealt with a break up?
your 14 yrs old its an unfortunate part of life but there will be more of these to come trust me hes not the only guy that will be in your life.resorting to alcohol will only delay the pain because when you sober up it will still be there.time is the only thing that will heal your pain. you will undoubtedly find another guy and forget this break up or at least wont feel so hurt
I had a case like this @ 30 years ago (I'm now 52).
My best friends took me out to a bar.
Got me very drunk.
Got me laid.
That worked.
Since you're 14, the ';drunk'; advice is NOT for you.
But move on: find a new guy.
Giving yourself time to get over it and keeping busy is the only thing that heals a broken heart. Alcohol dulls the pain, but doesn't take it away. Believe in yourself. The pain will eventually fade away.
Best thing you can do is tell yourself its his lost,not yours.Do good with your life get your education look good.Do what you can to focus on yourself,make everything about you better.Ask JESUS to heal your heart this always help me to move on.
you need to realise for yourself that it wasnt meant to be. Only then will you get over the person. Unfortunately, things like this aren't constrained by time, so all I can do is wish you the very best of luck.
Just embrace the pain. If you ignore it, it will come back to haunt you. It's OK to experience bad emotions but, i'm afraid, the only remedy is time.
well if my gf were to break up with me id prolly be mad and prolly try to win her back or try to drug my way so i can either forget her or move on if she didnt want me back. but in your case if u dont wanna get back with him id just move on
my advice is to hang around your girlfriends for a while, you know girls night. pretty soon you will realize that its not bad at all to be single........ as my friend said today quote '; im single and ready to mingle!'; lol
Best way to get over someone is to get under another one ;)
keep yourself busy with your friends! you have fun and dont think about it. and delete his number forsure.
Cried and cried for days, it gets easier with time....thats all i can say. Dont worry, just keep busy. Maybe dont drink so much :s
Set his belonings to fire...it may not have solved anything...but I sure as heck felt better
keep yourself busyyyyy!
find another guy
well i went through lots of break ups and all i can tell you is just ride it out only time can fix it
get someone new, and hang with friends
I hear you and I've been there. What ever you do just don't drink cause you are only hurting yourself. You don't want to be an alcoholic. You're only 14 , you got your life ahead of you. At this age there is too many fish in the pond. I think you should live you first teenage yrs. with no worries, nobody is worth drowning yourself for. Because remember, at this stage it's just Puppy Love, so have fun with your friends and enjoy your youth.Try to keep busy..best of luck
Why does it have to be pain... if you are really mature enough to date then you will know how to handle it (a break up) and not be torn apart. I mean I can't give that secret to you it has to be learned because just telling you in words will cause some sort of confusion for you. For starters, don't sit there and mope any longer tomorrow get up and get out of the house with some friends and have fun... i wish you didn't drink, life would be easier but hey go at it the best way you know how.
Okay chances are this break up is going to suck balls. And its fine, if you don't want to be with anyone else thats fine. The pain is just because you didn't have the click. That thing that you finally feel, when you are relieved that hes gone, genuinely relieved.
Not just fake spiteful speeches to your friends about how much your glad he's gone. Those maybe feel empowering for a while but at the end you still have a throw up feeling of something hard pressing down on you. The sigh as many times as you breathe feeling.
You just have to wait. Once you've invested time in something, its going to be hard to dive into a new routine. But its like getting up at 8am every morning for three years, then suddenly having to get up at 6 and being worn out and lost and a bit pissed that you can't just go back to the schedule you had before, where you get to sleep in more, and stay up later. Its harder not to wish for 8am wake up schedule. Go ahead be a little pissed your boss says you have to get up earlier and come to work from now on. But don't let it ruin your favorite tv shows. Since life is just a bunch of ';**** yeahs!'; and ';**** ups'; you just need to find a bunch of yeahs during the course of your life. Like milestones. That way even though you have to get up at 6am and go to work you can still say, ';**** yeah! I'm getting paid today, I'm gonna go get some pizza!'; Just look for the pizzas.
its really hard, i know :( but after a while, you will heal . for me it was easier and quicker because i lost contact with them and i didnt see them everyday , but it still took 2 months, around that time . im kind of going through a ';break up'; right now, but not exactly.. its complicated, but i know how you feel and to be honest with you, im going crazyy and i really dont know what to do anymore, becuase i have never felt this way :( the best thing people say to do is to move on, but the best thing i say to do is to just stay friends with that person, because you dont want to forget, you want to forgive :) hope i helped
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I will tell you straight. GOING STRAIGHT INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOOD. When you have a break up you find somthing that you love to do. You have to strengthen yourself. Going into another relationship will not teach you how to be independent and constanly depending on love and males arms weakens the mind. Trust me i have a friend that everytime she gets cheated on or broken up she jumps to another dude. she's constantly crying over males and she acts like shes scared to be alone. Now she is loosin alot of friends and kind of including me because it makes your mind frame different and might become fake because you will put love before yourself. Your still young... you have time to settle and find the right one. build yourself, find out who you are and what you like to do. Its plenty of men in the world. dont rush.
well it really only makes sense that you need to decide if the whole breakup thing bothering you is because of the fact you broke up and not over it. you did say you was not in love with him. Or if it is the whole fact of the breakup to begin with. Like thinking why did he not like me enough or did i do something wrong to cause this or did i not try hard enough.because if its the latter then we all do that at one point in our lives figuring out what type of person we are. And if we need to change or if they do. hope i helped.
Ohh sweetie. My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago after 16 months so I know how you're feeling and I'm 22. I'm still getting over it and trust me alcohol makes it sooo much worse. Everything you feel is normal and it'll take the hurt awhile to go away. I still cry but not as much as I used to. The best thing I did was when I start thinking of the good times we had (and you do a lot) I remind myself of the bad and the fact he broke my heart. Its okay to cry, it really is and there will be a day when you don't cry anymore because you realize he's not worth the tears.
Don't just jump back into dating. It'll be awhile before you think you can move on. I'm barely getting there myself. I'm not ready to date again either but hanging out doesn't hurt. Especially if he broke up with you because you owe him nothing.
This article helped me a lot. Try reading it sometime:
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How should i deal with a bad break up?
i just broke up with my girlfriend and i dont know how to get by..How should i deal with a bad break up?
Go out and get your mind off of it. Don't sit at home and do nothing because that's all you'll think about is the break up. Find another girl.How should i deal with a bad break up?
go to the bar and get a beer and a new girl
Go out and get your mind off of it. Don't sit at home and do nothing because that's all you'll think about is the break up. Find another girl.How should i deal with a bad break up?
go to the bar and get a beer and a new girl
How to deal with a break up knowing it was for good?
i have been in a relationship with a guy for 7 years now, only recently we broke up, i am finding it sooo hard to get over this and the worst part is i see him in class, which makes it even more painful. the reason why we broke up is that he abused verbally a lot my family n me, but even after all this why i feel pain for a person who gave me endless tears and depression? how to be happy n move on irrespective whther he studies with me or not?How to deal with a break up knowing it was for good?
Remind yourself why you left this guy. Verbal, mental and emotional abuse, is ABUSE. You did the right thing. It takes time for all wounds to heal. Time heals all wounds.
Move on! Live life to the fullest. Have faith and believe that someday when you least expect it, a man will come into your life that is worthy of you and you of him. Until then be happy.
I am proud of you for leaving an abusive relationship!How to deal with a break up knowing it was for good?
That was a long and probably very loving relationship and yeah, it's gonna be painful and confusing sometimes and take time to move past. I would talk to him, since he might also be hurting from it and he also has to deal with seeing you in class. See if both of you can figure out ways to make it less awkward and painful to see each other. I'm guessing that in a few months/years you and he will graduate or not have to be in class anymore? Until then just hang in there and keep busy with your family, schoolwork, job, friends, and take good care of yourself--get good sleep, eat healthy foods, exercise, etc.
You gotta tell yourself it was all for the best, for your health and well-being to be away from this guy. Change classes if you have to. If you can't, then disregard him in all ways possible. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps, and let it be known to others you are now a free woman and in the market for someone better than he was.
Remind yourself why you left this guy. Verbal, mental and emotional abuse, is ABUSE. You did the right thing. It takes time for all wounds to heal. Time heals all wounds.
Move on! Live life to the fullest. Have faith and believe that someday when you least expect it, a man will come into your life that is worthy of you and you of him. Until then be happy.
I am proud of you for leaving an abusive relationship!How to deal with a break up knowing it was for good?
That was a long and probably very loving relationship and yeah, it's gonna be painful and confusing sometimes and take time to move past. I would talk to him, since he might also be hurting from it and he also has to deal with seeing you in class. See if both of you can figure out ways to make it less awkward and painful to see each other. I'm guessing that in a few months/years you and he will graduate or not have to be in class anymore? Until then just hang in there and keep busy with your family, schoolwork, job, friends, and take good care of yourself--get good sleep, eat healthy foods, exercise, etc.
You gotta tell yourself it was all for the best, for your health and well-being to be away from this guy. Change classes if you have to. If you can't, then disregard him in all ways possible. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps, and let it be known to others you are now a free woman and in the market for someone better than he was.
How to deal with a break-up,to one you didn't want to end it with?
my boyfriend and i have an unusual relationship. I am in recovery and he has been there for me since the beginning. But he still chooses to use and drink. We both have lot of love for one another and don't want anyone else, even though people would rather see us not together. Unhealthy for me, i guess you could say. i gave 100% and always there for him. No matter the situation. Not sure though i think both of us knew somewhere it would come to an end because he always end up hurting me by going out on a binge and return when he needed me. I hurt alot and he knows what he means to me. It just came to be repeative situations. now that i haven't heard form him in two days i know it must be over. I feel a little empty inside. Knowing i won't be seeing him.How to deal with a break-up,to one you didn't want to end it with?
Sweetie, you already know the answer to your question. It seems you just need re-assurance. You both knew this wasn't going to work. You are in recovery and deserve a KUDOS for that. Great job! Though I am not an alcoholic, as a matter of fact, I hardly ever drink because I grew up with an alcoholic father and know all too well the destruction alcohol can cause, I can only imagine how much strength it must take. Please don't ';fall off the wagon';. Stay strong and keep with your principles. If your bf isn't willing to do the same you always run the risk of falling back into that sort of lifestyle and trust me, you don't want to do that. Though you say he has ';hung in there'; with you he still choses to drink. That ought to tell you something. You further state that you've been there for him 100% and yet, he still won't quit. C'mon now, you know in your heart of hearts that this is not going to work out between the two of you. What matters most right now is that you will stay on the right and sober track. As you haven't heard from him and already suspect it is over, you have to let go. Sure, it will be difficult in the beginning and yes, you probably feel some sort of emptyness inside. After all, you guys have been through a lot together but if you want to save yourself, don't just walk away. RUN! And if you happen to see him around, it doesn't mean you can't be cordial but do not get trapped back in that situation. You are on the right track, keep it up. You'll be happy you did, once you overcome the initial loneliness. Do you have a good friend or family member that knows of your situation and whom you can confide in. Maybe a member of AA, if that's how you are overcoming your addiction? If there is nobody around, you can always track me through Yahoo and I'll try to be there for you as much as I can. Remember, you are doing well and I am proud of you for taking control of your life. Take good care of yourself and keep it up. MsB.How to deal with a break-up,to one you didn't want to end it with?
Unfortunately it is a go nowhere situation. Can you imagine being with him forever (with the same conditions)? If he loves you enough he will sober up and realize that you are worth everything to him. Meanwhile, let him go and concentrate on yourself and the great job that you are doing to improve your life. I am certain that you know that your relationship couldn't continue as it is.
Good luck and great job!
Love is a fickle thing, I being as young as I am, have never truely experienced it. But I am wise enough to know, that if you TRULY love someone, it'd be best to move on and let go. To help ease the pain, hang with the girl inbetween jobs and have an all-girls'-day. My mom and her girlfriends did that to help my ';aunt'; get over her husband. Don't rush into any other relationships, let your heart mend a bit before moving on. Instead of crying, try laughing it off over coffee with your mom, sis, bro, whoever! Or give out hugs to those who look like they need it. Not only are you helping them feel better, but you'll start to feel better yourself. And who knows, you may meet anyother lover. ;)
i can't say anything bcuz i know the pain.hope you get what you want.
Sweetie, you already know the answer to your question. It seems you just need re-assurance. You both knew this wasn't going to work. You are in recovery and deserve a KUDOS for that. Great job! Though I am not an alcoholic, as a matter of fact, I hardly ever drink because I grew up with an alcoholic father and know all too well the destruction alcohol can cause, I can only imagine how much strength it must take. Please don't ';fall off the wagon';. Stay strong and keep with your principles. If your bf isn't willing to do the same you always run the risk of falling back into that sort of lifestyle and trust me, you don't want to do that. Though you say he has ';hung in there'; with you he still choses to drink. That ought to tell you something. You further state that you've been there for him 100% and yet, he still won't quit. C'mon now, you know in your heart of hearts that this is not going to work out between the two of you. What matters most right now is that you will stay on the right and sober track. As you haven't heard from him and already suspect it is over, you have to let go. Sure, it will be difficult in the beginning and yes, you probably feel some sort of emptyness inside. After all, you guys have been through a lot together but if you want to save yourself, don't just walk away. RUN! And if you happen to see him around, it doesn't mean you can't be cordial but do not get trapped back in that situation. You are on the right track, keep it up. You'll be happy you did, once you overcome the initial loneliness. Do you have a good friend or family member that knows of your situation and whom you can confide in. Maybe a member of AA, if that's how you are overcoming your addiction? If there is nobody around, you can always track me through Yahoo and I'll try to be there for you as much as I can. Remember, you are doing well and I am proud of you for taking control of your life. Take good care of yourself and keep it up. MsB.How to deal with a break-up,to one you didn't want to end it with?
Unfortunately it is a go nowhere situation. Can you imagine being with him forever (with the same conditions)? If he loves you enough he will sober up and realize that you are worth everything to him. Meanwhile, let him go and concentrate on yourself and the great job that you are doing to improve your life. I am certain that you know that your relationship couldn't continue as it is.
Good luck and great job!
Love is a fickle thing, I being as young as I am, have never truely experienced it. But I am wise enough to know, that if you TRULY love someone, it'd be best to move on and let go. To help ease the pain, hang with the girl inbetween jobs and have an all-girls'-day. My mom and her girlfriends did that to help my ';aunt'; get over her husband. Don't rush into any other relationships, let your heart mend a bit before moving on. Instead of crying, try laughing it off over coffee with your mom, sis, bro, whoever! Or give out hugs to those who look like they need it. Not only are you helping them feel better, but you'll start to feel better yourself. And who knows, you may meet anyother lover. ;)
i can't say anything bcuz i know the pain.hope you get what you want.
How to deal with a break up?
me and my ex broke up cause of alot of promblems that we had !!and like i still have feeling for him but i want to get over those feeling but i cant!how do i get over those feelings that i have for him?and i kno he has no feeling for me cause he told me!and we only went out for 2months and broke up!How to deal with a break up?
You were only with him for 2 months I know you can develop strong feelings for someone but you moved too soon because it was easy for him to shake you off. My suggestion is go out with good girlfriends have some fun life is not over you will find someone else. This guy is not worth the time and effort emotionally you are spending being sad and depressed. Time and space from him will definitely heal this wound. Next relationship don't get so emotionally involved real quick sit back and watch how the guy is reacting to you. Believe me you will know in a very short time if he is worthy of you.How to deal with a break up?
Alot of people will tell you to just get out there and hook up with someone else. Now this works very well for guys. However, the majority of women are wired completely different from men, and random hookups very seldomly work for women trying to get over someone. The best thing you can do is just go on with your life, and do things to make you feel better about yourself. Go get a massage. Go get a manicure. Get a makeover. Go shopping. Just do what makes you happy, and you'll move on eventually.
Stay busy. Time is what it takes. The feelings will fade with time. Do things for yourself to make you feel good.
i'm kinda in the same situation...
FIDO
Forget
It (and)
Drive
On
Works every time...you will have feelling for someone else that can return them.
just forget it all and go on with your life .
Ok, the worst thing to do to get over him is by going out with someone else, so DON'T do that. The best thing to do is to wait on it. It could take a few weeks, or a few months. Honestly when i went out with my Gf and she broke up with me after a month, I decided to go out with someone else, but just couldnt. SO i broke up with her after a few days. Broke her heart, and it hurt me too. So the best thing to do is wait on it
';Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go'; Herman Hesse
Just be busy... don't make a munite that will make you think of him.. Then take away those things that will make you think of him like pictures, his gifts to you.. Be with your friends all the times.. Enjoy yourself so that you will not think of him
Try to keep yourself busy specially with your girlfriends , that's the only healthy way and the worst thing to do it date another person to forget him.
You were only with him for 2 months I know you can develop strong feelings for someone but you moved too soon because it was easy for him to shake you off. My suggestion is go out with good girlfriends have some fun life is not over you will find someone else. This guy is not worth the time and effort emotionally you are spending being sad and depressed. Time and space from him will definitely heal this wound. Next relationship don't get so emotionally involved real quick sit back and watch how the guy is reacting to you. Believe me you will know in a very short time if he is worthy of you.How to deal with a break up?
Alot of people will tell you to just get out there and hook up with someone else. Now this works very well for guys. However, the majority of women are wired completely different from men, and random hookups very seldomly work for women trying to get over someone. The best thing you can do is just go on with your life, and do things to make you feel better about yourself. Go get a massage. Go get a manicure. Get a makeover. Go shopping. Just do what makes you happy, and you'll move on eventually.
Stay busy. Time is what it takes. The feelings will fade with time. Do things for yourself to make you feel good.
i'm kinda in the same situation...
FIDO
Forget
It (and)
Drive
On
Works every time...you will have feelling for someone else that can return them.
just forget it all and go on with your life .
Ok, the worst thing to do to get over him is by going out with someone else, so DON'T do that. The best thing to do is to wait on it. It could take a few weeks, or a few months. Honestly when i went out with my Gf and she broke up with me after a month, I decided to go out with someone else, but just couldnt. SO i broke up with her after a few days. Broke her heart, and it hurt me too. So the best thing to do is wait on it
';Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go'; Herman Hesse
Just be busy... don't make a munite that will make you think of him.. Then take away those things that will make you think of him like pictures, his gifts to you.. Be with your friends all the times.. Enjoy yourself so that you will not think of him
Try to keep yourself busy specially with your girlfriends , that's the only healthy way and the worst thing to do it date another person to forget him.
How do you deal with a break up?
well me and my first real bf broke up. we said we will still be friends and maybe go out again someday, but i feel so sad, and sick it makes my stomach feel weird. i still really like him and i know he likes me but at school we didn't even act like bf and gf. but i feel bad. he said he wants to date me but he doesn't know. what should i do?How do you deal with a break up?
i wish i newHow do you deal with a break up?
oh i was gonna say go party with your girlfriends..but your still in school..but get over it..your young you know how many other guys there are out there..
dont sweat it.
just go to school, contiuously, looking hott! ;)
Ignore him, because he doesnt sound like such a great guy if hes not showing you affection in public.
Take care.
but dont sweat the bs %26amp; boys!
Keep yourself busy read so bowling, skating,hang out with family/friends
ice cream
and
sad movies romantic ones
really tell him how you feel you will feel so much better when you get it off your chest even if you dont get the answer you want that feeling in your stomach will go away once your done...i been thru that before....but if it doesnt come out the way you want hang in there just remember if you love somone let them go and if it come back to you it was meant to be
Ok this just happen to me last week me and my first real bf broke up but wat made it hard is he is my bestfriend and the way i handled it was i cryed a little b/c its just somehting we do and then i was like you know this really sucks right now and i still have feelings for him to but all you can do is keep that friendship alive cuzz that is wat me and him are doing we are still friendsat first it was a little wired but now i mean i have gotten us to it. I mean dont get me wrong its hard sometimes talking to him but i mean it was for the best. There is no really way to handle it you just have to do what feels right to you snd what will help you. I mean do what u think is best
sorry if this does not really help but i hope it does
good luck
just let time go by...If it is meant to happen then it will....
i wish i newHow do you deal with a break up?
oh i was gonna say go party with your girlfriends..but your still in school..but get over it..your young you know how many other guys there are out there..
dont sweat it.
just go to school, contiuously, looking hott! ;)
Ignore him, because he doesnt sound like such a great guy if hes not showing you affection in public.
Take care.
but dont sweat the bs %26amp; boys!
Keep yourself busy read so bowling, skating,hang out with family/friends
ice cream
and
sad movies romantic ones
really tell him how you feel you will feel so much better when you get it off your chest even if you dont get the answer you want that feeling in your stomach will go away once your done...i been thru that before....but if it doesnt come out the way you want hang in there just remember if you love somone let them go and if it come back to you it was meant to be
Ok this just happen to me last week me and my first real bf broke up but wat made it hard is he is my bestfriend and the way i handled it was i cryed a little b/c its just somehting we do and then i was like you know this really sucks right now and i still have feelings for him to but all you can do is keep that friendship alive cuzz that is wat me and him are doing we are still friendsat first it was a little wired but now i mean i have gotten us to it. I mean dont get me wrong its hard sometimes talking to him but i mean it was for the best. There is no really way to handle it you just have to do what feels right to you snd what will help you. I mean do what u think is best
sorry if this does not really help but i hope it does
good luck
just let time go by...If it is meant to happen then it will....
I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
My ex left me about a month and a half ago. We had an amazing relationship (she was constantly saying how happy she was, how much I meant to her, how amazing I was etc) for 2 months, but in the third month I got insecure and this essentially pushed her away.
Unfortunately we have to see each other still as we are part of the same social circle and sports club. Since the break up we didn鈥檛 speak for a while. However, two weeks back we went away for the weekend with my social group. Here we got along well and even had a bit of flirting and banter again. When I got back from the weekend, we texted throughout the evening. She stated how happy she was that we were on speaking terms again, and flirted a little and then asked if I fancied getting a drink sometime.
I replied- then heard nothing from her.
In person she has pretty much ignored me since. We are friends on facebook but when we are both online she never speaks to me.
I don鈥檛 get this. Why could she be being like this. I really want her back in my life but don鈥檛 know what to do鈥?
Do I call her out on this behaviour? Do I just text and ask to meet for a drink? Do I just ignore it and wait for her to come to me (if she ever does)
Thanks in advance for your help.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I know how hard this can be because I've recently been through it. Personally if I were in your situation I'd give her one last shot.
Just say something along the lines of ';Hey, I hope you're doing OK. Would you still like to grab that drink sometime?';.
If she doesn't reply to you or make an effort, just take it as a no and seriously try to move on. Keep yourself busy and remember that just because you too split, the world doesn't stop revolving.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I am an expert by no means, however, I think she may be scared that things will get back to how they were, and then get all weird again, which would be a bad thing right? so in my honest opinion I would call her and arrange to meet somewhere neutral so neither of you feel threatened emotionally and talk frankly about how you both feel, and if there is a future for the relationship, i think from what you have said she is still interested, but don't force her, just let her do what she wants in her own time, whilst letting her know you are there waiting when she is ready, DON'T go for the waiting for her to come, in my experience she may think you don't care and have moved on and she may do the same.
good luck and I hope it all works out for you both.make money myspace commentes
Unfortunately we have to see each other still as we are part of the same social circle and sports club. Since the break up we didn鈥檛 speak for a while. However, two weeks back we went away for the weekend with my social group. Here we got along well and even had a bit of flirting and banter again. When I got back from the weekend, we texted throughout the evening. She stated how happy she was that we were on speaking terms again, and flirted a little and then asked if I fancied getting a drink sometime.
I replied- then heard nothing from her.
In person she has pretty much ignored me since. We are friends on facebook but when we are both online she never speaks to me.
I don鈥檛 get this. Why could she be being like this. I really want her back in my life but don鈥檛 know what to do鈥?
Do I call her out on this behaviour? Do I just text and ask to meet for a drink? Do I just ignore it and wait for her to come to me (if she ever does)
Thanks in advance for your help.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I know how hard this can be because I've recently been through it. Personally if I were in your situation I'd give her one last shot.
Just say something along the lines of ';Hey, I hope you're doing OK. Would you still like to grab that drink sometime?';.
If she doesn't reply to you or make an effort, just take it as a no and seriously try to move on. Keep yourself busy and remember that just because you too split, the world doesn't stop revolving.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I am an expert by no means, however, I think she may be scared that things will get back to how they were, and then get all weird again, which would be a bad thing right? so in my honest opinion I would call her and arrange to meet somewhere neutral so neither of you feel threatened emotionally and talk frankly about how you both feel, and if there is a future for the relationship, i think from what you have said she is still interested, but don't force her, just let her do what she wants in her own time, whilst letting her know you are there waiting when she is ready, DON'T go for the waiting for her to come, in my experience she may think you don't care and have moved on and she may do the same.
good luck and I hope it all works out for you both.
Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
i want to know honestly from both sexes how you deal with a breakup
also state if you are male or female :)Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
';he to himself who binds a joy, does the winged life destroy; but he who kisses the joy as it flies, lives on in eternity's sunrise';.......this poem was written roughly 200 yrs ago and it still rings beautifully true !!! xxx says it all really ! i try to live with this in mind but it's hard sometimes xxx me, i'm just a chilled and free aquarian....with no-one to make me smile !!! hee hee hee !! i'm over it !!!Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
female - have a good cry, get on with my life, don't dwell over the past, have some good times without a man in tow, live life to the full.
Concentrate on being happy.
Ciggarettes, alcohol, short term bitterness, mild depression, burning of anything that reminds me of my ex and then back to reality time to move on
I deal with a breakup by hanging out with my friends and keeping my mind occupied. Just go out and have fun. Move on to better people and learn from the past
personally....i grieve as if someone has died. then i retreat and stay by myself for a while, until i'm ready to face the world again.
female- im going through a break up now. finding it so hard as i still love him so much but know the relationship aint right anymore. i dont know how to move on? hopefully my child will keep me going? good luck x
Drink, get bitter, find someone else, easy.
Plenty of booze and time with other people.
I'm a Male and it takes a Woman to get over a Woman...
You feel bad and then you get over it.
Chocolate and girls nights out great stuff :)
I just do what I normally do. Whats the point in moping?
accept it is over and move on..
also state if you are male or female :)Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
';he to himself who binds a joy, does the winged life destroy; but he who kisses the joy as it flies, lives on in eternity's sunrise';.......this poem was written roughly 200 yrs ago and it still rings beautifully true !!! xxx says it all really ! i try to live with this in mind but it's hard sometimes xxx me, i'm just a chilled and free aquarian....with no-one to make me smile !!! hee hee hee !! i'm over it !!!Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
female - have a good cry, get on with my life, don't dwell over the past, have some good times without a man in tow, live life to the full.
Concentrate on being happy.
Ciggarettes, alcohol, short term bitterness, mild depression, burning of anything that reminds me of my ex and then back to reality time to move on
I deal with a breakup by hanging out with my friends and keeping my mind occupied. Just go out and have fun. Move on to better people and learn from the past
personally....i grieve as if someone has died. then i retreat and stay by myself for a while, until i'm ready to face the world again.
female- im going through a break up now. finding it so hard as i still love him so much but know the relationship aint right anymore. i dont know how to move on? hopefully my child will keep me going? good luck x
Drink, get bitter, find someone else, easy.
Plenty of booze and time with other people.
I'm a Male and it takes a Woman to get over a Woman...
You feel bad and then you get over it.
Chocolate and girls nights out great stuff :)
I just do what I normally do. Whats the point in moping?
accept it is over and move on..
How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
We had a Particularly Volatile relationship, buy the end of it he was trying to brake into my house- which my youngest boy - 4 - witnessed.
He has a heart of gold as a father but has no clue how to deal with the world and i am not prepared to sit around while he promises to change.
My youngest is only 2- and seems to be almost unaware of the situation,
My eldest is 4 and as a result he is really acting up. I don't want to be any softer on him than normal Bcoz He finds it hard to deal with change and his dad not being around and starting school is a lot of change. I want to appear constant with him.
I am terrified of raising them alone - we have not lived with their dad for years -he was never around anyway - but now its official is scary.
so how do i help the boys to deal with this but remain constant so as not to upset them anymore?How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
Be honest but only as is suitable for the age of the child, assure them constantly that both you and your father love them and will always do so and will always be there for them. Obviously the two year old is not old enough to understand a lot and will accept the changes as the norm.
Get a third party involved a mediation or if necessary the courts to sort out the custody and visitation rights of their father and stick to them so the children have as much consistency as possible. Never allow your anger or bitterness show in front of the children, critisism of him will damage their self esteem.
It seems to me that you probably understand all of this and will do your best to minimise the impact on your children but you do need to make your home safe for them and yourself. So it might be necessary for you to get some sort of restraining order against their father coming to the house until he comes to terms with the situation and realises the damage he is causing by being violent or aggressive in front of them and ceases to do so.
You say he is a loving father so use this to make him realise that while your relationship is over you know he is a great father and you will always want him to be as much a part of the childrens lives as before and involved as much as possible in the children's care and upbringing.
Don't be scared you have obviously managed on your own and if you and their father can sort out a good agreement of shared parenting you will probably find it a lot easier than the way things are now.
Good luckHow Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
You already know the answer - remain constant. This is the most important thing. That along with reminding them that you love them and you aren't going anywhere is very important. Make sure you don't let either of them ';get away'; with more because you feel bad for them, they are also at the age where they want to test their boundaries and see where they can get, it is important to be consistent with that as well. Im sorry, stay strong!
charleyc13 - that was unthoughtful, rude and inconciderate.
well...
1. don't marry someone unless you completely love them and there is no chance you'll break up because you want to be with each other forever. (or if you were stupid enough to have a child out of wedlock then you brought it on yourself)
2. they shouldn't have to deal with it
3. did you even think how this would affect them before you got divorced
fill them up with sweets
Luckily they're both so young and if he's hardly around anyway, they may not notice too much difference. Children find it so much easier to adapt to this sort of situation, they'll probably find it easier than you'll expect.
Of course there'll be some difficulties to start with, but you've just got to be there for them both, especially the eldest who has more concept with what's happening. Starting school can be difficult for children, just help him through the daily trivia, he'll soon perk up.
Befriend other parents in the playground, it should help your children settle in and make friends easier themselves if you're doing it too.
If you've been doing this yourself mainly anyway, you've nothing to be scared about. I'm sure you're a great parent, just keep doing everything the same as you already was. ^^
He has a heart of gold as a father but has no clue how to deal with the world and i am not prepared to sit around while he promises to change.
My youngest is only 2- and seems to be almost unaware of the situation,
My eldest is 4 and as a result he is really acting up. I don't want to be any softer on him than normal Bcoz He finds it hard to deal with change and his dad not being around and starting school is a lot of change. I want to appear constant with him.
I am terrified of raising them alone - we have not lived with their dad for years -he was never around anyway - but now its official is scary.
so how do i help the boys to deal with this but remain constant so as not to upset them anymore?How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
Be honest but only as is suitable for the age of the child, assure them constantly that both you and your father love them and will always do so and will always be there for them. Obviously the two year old is not old enough to understand a lot and will accept the changes as the norm.
Get a third party involved a mediation or if necessary the courts to sort out the custody and visitation rights of their father and stick to them so the children have as much consistency as possible. Never allow your anger or bitterness show in front of the children, critisism of him will damage their self esteem.
It seems to me that you probably understand all of this and will do your best to minimise the impact on your children but you do need to make your home safe for them and yourself. So it might be necessary for you to get some sort of restraining order against their father coming to the house until he comes to terms with the situation and realises the damage he is causing by being violent or aggressive in front of them and ceases to do so.
You say he is a loving father so use this to make him realise that while your relationship is over you know he is a great father and you will always want him to be as much a part of the childrens lives as before and involved as much as possible in the children's care and upbringing.
Don't be scared you have obviously managed on your own and if you and their father can sort out a good agreement of shared parenting you will probably find it a lot easier than the way things are now.
Good luckHow Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
You already know the answer - remain constant. This is the most important thing. That along with reminding them that you love them and you aren't going anywhere is very important. Make sure you don't let either of them ';get away'; with more because you feel bad for them, they are also at the age where they want to test their boundaries and see where they can get, it is important to be consistent with that as well. Im sorry, stay strong!
charleyc13 - that was unthoughtful, rude and inconciderate.
well...
1. don't marry someone unless you completely love them and there is no chance you'll break up because you want to be with each other forever. (or if you were stupid enough to have a child out of wedlock then you brought it on yourself)
2. they shouldn't have to deal with it
3. did you even think how this would affect them before you got divorced
fill them up with sweets
Luckily they're both so young and if he's hardly around anyway, they may not notice too much difference. Children find it so much easier to adapt to this sort of situation, they'll probably find it easier than you'll expect.
Of course there'll be some difficulties to start with, but you've just got to be there for them both, especially the eldest who has more concept with what's happening. Starting school can be difficult for children, just help him through the daily trivia, he'll soon perk up.
Befriend other parents in the playground, it should help your children settle in and make friends easier themselves if you're doing it too.
If you've been doing this yourself mainly anyway, you've nothing to be scared about. I'm sure you're a great parent, just keep doing everything the same as you already was. ^^
How do you deal with a break up?
i was with this girl and everything was great. She decided she did not want to be with me and now she doesnt even want to be friends. She gave me no reason why and im jut so hurt by all of it. My whole life i was scared to open up to a girl in fear of this happening. I dont know what to do, my heart says i still like her but by mind is telling me that there is no chance of us being friends. She even went to the point to ask me to buy tickets off me for a game but doesnt want to be friends. I think she used me cause i was just there at the time and i took her to nice places she had never been. How am i suppose to not go back to being in a shell when this happens. Its hard to cause i didnt havea gf all through highschool either. Just sad and dont know how to deal with this. Anyone have any help for me would be great. Im so friggin lonely dont think i will ever find a girl that doesnt use me and truly cares abotu meHow do you deal with a break up?
Get out into the world!
You sound like a very shy guy, the best medicine is to meet new people and spend heaps of time with your friends. Sitting alone at home sulking isn't going to solve anything.How do you deal with a break up?
you will find a girl; it might not be now but in the future you will find the right girl for you. even though this happened, it wont always be like this and you should learn even though it will be hard to trust people because then you will find out who truely cares for you.
I have been there. Just remind yourself that you WILL eventually meet someone new, it may take a while, it may not, but it will happen. Until that time focus on improving yourself; work out, pick up a new skill, enjoy time with your friends. Before you know it you'll meet someone new and you wont even remember what's-her-face.
OK sorry for the first answer just try and get out more and meet new people don't go looking for a relationship it ll just put pressure on you try surround yourself with nice friendly people if that fails you could always have a little drink!!
i know its hard but you have to move on in your life, it might take you awhile but you'll get there, just remember to take baby steps, don't rush into things.
one word...family! they will be there for you. its so hard and im sorry to hear that you have had your heart broken. time does heal all even though i know its no consolation. but open up to your family and they will care for you
i hire an assassination squad. they do the work and clean it up to.
however most of the time i just say ------ , and move on
dude just suck it up and get over it there are other girls out there just get over it and go on with your life it will be easier.
Eat more beans and start farting more. That always helps.
Move on.
Drink and drown your sorrows my man.
Or smoke some weed, that will make you happy, i promise.
you know what here is all i can really say about this. the way you feel right now in general, is the worst you will ever feel with love. now i know you feel real bad, but in a while you will be ok and lookin for that next special someone. love,and life are full of hills you start up the hill you get to the top and start back down, just try not to trip and fall on the way down, because it can make the next upward climb a little harder. everything is gonna be alright.
This is her loss. Dont be sad. I know its hard but you will find someone perfect for you. Dont look for it. Be happy with yourself first %26amp; the girls will notice the confidence %26amp; they'll be fighting for you. Keep busy. Go out %26amp; date for a while. The second you act like you dont care is when she'll probably be up your a**. All girls are not like that %26amp; you have the rest of your life to find one. Dont give her that much power. Hang in there. These experiences are what makes you stronger.
The answer is you just put one foot in front of the other and keep living you life, taking pride that you know that you are a good person, and the sometimes crappy things happen to good people. Forget about the reasons for the breakup (though take a few hours to learn any lessons that might be there), and definitely forget about people that don't want you in their life.
To fall in love means taking the chance of putting yourself out there, risking something going wrong. If you don't risk it, it won't happen.
Learn to be happy with yourself, and find interesting hobbies or sports or activities to keep yourself entertained All this will make you a happier person, and happier with yourself. Knowing that you can survive, even be happy without someone in your life, is an amazing thing.
The kicker here is that all of those things also make you more attractive to others. People that are happy, confident and like themselves, that have hobbies, activities/adventures and play sports or whatever are actually out there meeting people. All this makes you more interesting and more attractive and someone people will be more interested in meeting.
Do it for yourself though and to meet friends in general - not just to meet a girl that you will be able to cling to and only feel secure when with her.
Meeting someone that is a good match takes time, so you MUST learn to enjoy the time before you find her, otherwise you'll just be miserable. You don't need to be miserable. You already have everything you need to be happy.
Try to stay busy. Hang out with friends. Read books to escape your mind. Are you old enough to go to a bar? If you are go out. See that there are other woman out there. Dress yourself nice so that you feel good. Do whatever makes you feel the best. If you have any female friends they are probably the best ones to call on right now. just try not to sulk for too long. give yourself some time to have a pitty party but then get out and get well
good luck to you
I know the feeling. Don't live in fear of opening up to other girls, just don't wear your heart on your sleeve. A guy broke my heart and left me for another chick, and I would have probably been extremely happy if we kept a friendship. Don't be discouraged, because you know what motivated me to get over it? I lost a good friend of mine for being so obsessive. I stopped paying attention to the ones who matter the most, and it gave me a reality check. Appreciate what you have, and think of romance as a bonus. Because more than likely, everytime you start dating a girl, it's not gonna work out. Don't force yourself to fall in love. To get over her, you need to avoid obsessing over her, even though its hard. And no, sometimes to get over someone is not going under someone else. A reality check is what allowed me to get over my ex. And of course it hurt like a *****, BUT, if you keep asking yourself why she did it over and over again, you'll never get anywhere! As of today, after about a year of that reality check, I've been over him, because I learned what is most important in my life. Ones that love me and would take a bullet for me. Start appreciating things alot more, because she's not worth it. And I have moved on, but like I said, I'm not wearing my heart on my sleeve. There's no need to. I'm not gonna open up as easily, because I'm more cautious. But don't confuse that with living with fear.
Get out into the world!
You sound like a very shy guy, the best medicine is to meet new people and spend heaps of time with your friends. Sitting alone at home sulking isn't going to solve anything.How do you deal with a break up?
you will find a girl; it might not be now but in the future you will find the right girl for you. even though this happened, it wont always be like this and you should learn even though it will be hard to trust people because then you will find out who truely cares for you.
I have been there. Just remind yourself that you WILL eventually meet someone new, it may take a while, it may not, but it will happen. Until that time focus on improving yourself; work out, pick up a new skill, enjoy time with your friends. Before you know it you'll meet someone new and you wont even remember what's-her-face.
OK sorry for the first answer just try and get out more and meet new people don't go looking for a relationship it ll just put pressure on you try surround yourself with nice friendly people if that fails you could always have a little drink!!
i know its hard but you have to move on in your life, it might take you awhile but you'll get there, just remember to take baby steps, don't rush into things.
one word...family! they will be there for you. its so hard and im sorry to hear that you have had your heart broken. time does heal all even though i know its no consolation. but open up to your family and they will care for you
i hire an assassination squad. they do the work and clean it up to.
however most of the time i just say ------ , and move on
dude just suck it up and get over it there are other girls out there just get over it and go on with your life it will be easier.
Eat more beans and start farting more. That always helps.
Move on.
Drink and drown your sorrows my man.
Or smoke some weed, that will make you happy, i promise.
you know what here is all i can really say about this. the way you feel right now in general, is the worst you will ever feel with love. now i know you feel real bad, but in a while you will be ok and lookin for that next special someone. love,and life are full of hills you start up the hill you get to the top and start back down, just try not to trip and fall on the way down, because it can make the next upward climb a little harder. everything is gonna be alright.
This is her loss. Dont be sad. I know its hard but you will find someone perfect for you. Dont look for it. Be happy with yourself first %26amp; the girls will notice the confidence %26amp; they'll be fighting for you. Keep busy. Go out %26amp; date for a while. The second you act like you dont care is when she'll probably be up your a**. All girls are not like that %26amp; you have the rest of your life to find one. Dont give her that much power. Hang in there. These experiences are what makes you stronger.
The answer is you just put one foot in front of the other and keep living you life, taking pride that you know that you are a good person, and the sometimes crappy things happen to good people. Forget about the reasons for the breakup (though take a few hours to learn any lessons that might be there), and definitely forget about people that don't want you in their life.
To fall in love means taking the chance of putting yourself out there, risking something going wrong. If you don't risk it, it won't happen.
Learn to be happy with yourself, and find interesting hobbies or sports or activities to keep yourself entertained All this will make you a happier person, and happier with yourself. Knowing that you can survive, even be happy without someone in your life, is an amazing thing.
The kicker here is that all of those things also make you more attractive to others. People that are happy, confident and like themselves, that have hobbies, activities/adventures and play sports or whatever are actually out there meeting people. All this makes you more interesting and more attractive and someone people will be more interested in meeting.
Do it for yourself though and to meet friends in general - not just to meet a girl that you will be able to cling to and only feel secure when with her.
Meeting someone that is a good match takes time, so you MUST learn to enjoy the time before you find her, otherwise you'll just be miserable. You don't need to be miserable. You already have everything you need to be happy.
Try to stay busy. Hang out with friends. Read books to escape your mind. Are you old enough to go to a bar? If you are go out. See that there are other woman out there. Dress yourself nice so that you feel good. Do whatever makes you feel the best. If you have any female friends they are probably the best ones to call on right now. just try not to sulk for too long. give yourself some time to have a pitty party but then get out and get well
good luck to you
I know the feeling. Don't live in fear of opening up to other girls, just don't wear your heart on your sleeve. A guy broke my heart and left me for another chick, and I would have probably been extremely happy if we kept a friendship. Don't be discouraged, because you know what motivated me to get over it? I lost a good friend of mine for being so obsessive. I stopped paying attention to the ones who matter the most, and it gave me a reality check. Appreciate what you have, and think of romance as a bonus. Because more than likely, everytime you start dating a girl, it's not gonna work out. Don't force yourself to fall in love. To get over her, you need to avoid obsessing over her, even though its hard. And no, sometimes to get over someone is not going under someone else. A reality check is what allowed me to get over my ex. And of course it hurt like a *****, BUT, if you keep asking yourself why she did it over and over again, you'll never get anywhere! As of today, after about a year of that reality check, I've been over him, because I learned what is most important in my life. Ones that love me and would take a bullet for me. Start appreciating things alot more, because she's not worth it. And I have moved on, but like I said, I'm not wearing my heart on my sleeve. There's no need to. I'm not gonna open up as easily, because I'm more cautious. But don't confuse that with living with fear.
How do I deal with a break up?
I was with a girl for about 5 years, things was good, not many fights. some small things here and there, nothing big. there was some big stuff 2 years into it, but we worked them out, and we was always there for each other, talking to each other about everyday for 5 years and seeing each other. -- now she break up with me. I try to get her back her getting flowers and nice dinners and crying and more stuff. she says she dont love me anymore. I dont know what to do. she never calls me anymore or anything. she used to call me everyday just to make sure I was ok and tell me she loves me. now this is killing me in side, 5 years of all the memorys and everything. I meet her when I was 18, I am now 23. I miss her and want to call her right now and just talk. but, I dont know if I should its been about 2 months since I seen her, and about week since we talked.
what should I do, try to talk to her tell her how I feel? or just move on and try to find another girl friend. really.my mind and heart tells me I dont want another girl friend. but, I dont like this alone feeling.
I still am my self and trying to stay strong.
thank you
How do I deal with a break up?
Its going to be hard at first but you have to move on. Its the hardest thing hearing someone you love tell you that they dont love you anymore. I think everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. It sucks but thats life. You need to just go out and have fun with your friends. You were young when you met her. There are so many girls out there. Once you start going out you may realize that you really didn't love her. How do I deal with a break up?
Take it from me I've been in this situation (well I'm currently in it) the fact is girls can be right bitches no matter how much you pour your heart and soul out to her she won't care trust me do not do this! Keep your self respect because at the end of today you will be with yourself forever she might not. now is the time to take charge of your life and be the man you want to be! if she doesn't love you then its HER loss in time you will find someone that loves you and you will be happy. Until then nows the time to do the things you've always wanted to do enjoy the single life for a while and get active don't just wallow in self pity.
best wishes Dan
well,,i no it hurts and i no how u feel
especially when someone tells u they dont love u anymore
but u gotta let her go because if she really wants nothing to do with u then your just gonna hurt urself, even mroe
but if she realizes ur not there anymore she might realize she ****** up big time and start to miss u and then shell call u u just have to wait for it,,i wouldnt get a girlfriend right away ur not emotianally stable for that i would just rely on ur friends for company they are the ones that will always be there for u.
what should I do, try to talk to her tell her how I feel? or just move on and try to find another girl friend. really.my mind and heart tells me I dont want another girl friend. but, I dont like this alone feeling.
I still am my self and trying to stay strong.
thank you
How do I deal with a break up?
Its going to be hard at first but you have to move on. Its the hardest thing hearing someone you love tell you that they dont love you anymore. I think everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. It sucks but thats life. You need to just go out and have fun with your friends. You were young when you met her. There are so many girls out there. Once you start going out you may realize that you really didn't love her. How do I deal with a break up?
Take it from me I've been in this situation (well I'm currently in it) the fact is girls can be right bitches no matter how much you pour your heart and soul out to her she won't care trust me do not do this! Keep your self respect because at the end of today you will be with yourself forever she might not. now is the time to take charge of your life and be the man you want to be! if she doesn't love you then its HER loss in time you will find someone that loves you and you will be happy. Until then nows the time to do the things you've always wanted to do enjoy the single life for a while and get active don't just wallow in self pity.
best wishes Dan
well,,i no it hurts and i no how u feel
especially when someone tells u they dont love u anymore
but u gotta let her go because if she really wants nothing to do with u then your just gonna hurt urself, even mroe
but if she realizes ur not there anymore she might realize she ****** up big time and start to miss u and then shell call u u just have to wait for it,,i wouldnt get a girlfriend right away ur not emotianally stable for that i would just rely on ur friends for company they are the ones that will always be there for u.
How to deal with this break up?
We were together for a lil over a year and for the past 2 years she has claimed she loves me more than her own life and wanted me to be the father of her children. We were great at first we trusted each other and I loved her dearly...but when I went back to school she started asking me if I was cheating on her and getting mad I couldn't spend all day doing nothing with her. So a week ago we had a fight and she told me she needed time to think about us and that was the last I heard from her. Yesterday I found out she deleted me from everything and got a new facebook page where she has a new bf that she is already telling him she loves him so much. I sent her a email asking her why wasn't she woman enough to just end us and say goodbye instead of running away like thief in the night. Needless to say no reply to any of messages, so I just deleted her from everything and got a new phone number email address and got rid of the dog we shared and burned all of her crap. Now I its finally fully hitting me just how f*ed up she is and its hurting like a motha. What should I do? am I better off without her like my friends have been saying( they have been telling me since day one they didn't trust her and not go out with her) Whats her deal?How to deal with this break up?
Why do you break your head over such trivial matters?? Just forget her and move on with life. She has found a new love or whatever you call it as and she wants to proceed with that. So what is your problem?????How to deal with this break up?
Sounds like she's insecure and not ready for a serious relationship until she sorts out personal issues of her own.
www.zomganime.com will help lol.
I am so sorry. You didn't deserve that. You deserved proper communication and a ';real'; breakup, but sometimes life doesn't roll the way it should. You are better off without her. She's extremely immature and selfish. It's good you got rid of all of her stuff...that was always the hardest part of a breakup for me because once that stuff is gone it's like they're completely out of your life and not a part of you anymore. You deserve someone amazing.
When I'm dealing with a breakup I usually try to consume myself in something new...like getting a gym membership and working out everyday...or going skiing....or whatever else. I rely on friends too. They can be a big strength to you at this awful time in your life. Listen to your friends! Sometimes they can see things we are blinded by...
two words:
Move on.
well if she told you she '; loved '; you since the beginning it more then likely means she didnt. %26amp;%26amp; if she's out there telling some other guy that she '; loves '; him. then she either wants to get you jealous or make you honestly feel like **** because she thinks you did cheat on her. the point here is not to make her look good. But to show you that she NEVER did really love you. maybe in the end but i doubt it. if she really loved you she wouldnt be doing what shes doing. trust me i know girls. i am a girl. lol. just seriously move on.
%26amp;%26amp; of course it going to be hard to let go, %26amp; yes it hit you hard because after all the anger the emotions came. Thats why you feel the way you do. But its because you did truely care about her. It might be hard at first, and since it was a long relationship; maybe harder. but youll forget about her and look at her as someone who was and is no more.
-- i hope i helped :)
im goin thru the same thing with my ex we were 2gether for 2 years.. find a way to make her jealous like act like it dosnt bother u go out FLIRT WITH HER FRIENDS on facebook everywhere! us women hate it so much even if u think her friends ugly it axually works.. cry and let it all out even if ur a man its ok 2 cry! if she sees you dont want her back she'll want u back im a female trust me. i hope everything works for you.
Don't CHASE them...REPLACE them!
wow ditch her and move on. school should be your priority obviously she dnt love you. Move On :)
try to move on, maybe she will realize what a great person u where, if not, then her loss, im trying to do the same tho my ex is away in boot camp.
find someone else, then make her jealousmake money myspace commentes
Why do you break your head over such trivial matters?? Just forget her and move on with life. She has found a new love or whatever you call it as and she wants to proceed with that. So what is your problem?????How to deal with this break up?
Sounds like she's insecure and not ready for a serious relationship until she sorts out personal issues of her own.
www.zomganime.com will help lol.
I am so sorry. You didn't deserve that. You deserved proper communication and a ';real'; breakup, but sometimes life doesn't roll the way it should. You are better off without her. She's extremely immature and selfish. It's good you got rid of all of her stuff...that was always the hardest part of a breakup for me because once that stuff is gone it's like they're completely out of your life and not a part of you anymore. You deserve someone amazing.
When I'm dealing with a breakup I usually try to consume myself in something new...like getting a gym membership and working out everyday...or going skiing....or whatever else. I rely on friends too. They can be a big strength to you at this awful time in your life. Listen to your friends! Sometimes they can see things we are blinded by...
two words:
Move on.
well if she told you she '; loved '; you since the beginning it more then likely means she didnt. %26amp;%26amp; if she's out there telling some other guy that she '; loves '; him. then she either wants to get you jealous or make you honestly feel like **** because she thinks you did cheat on her. the point here is not to make her look good. But to show you that she NEVER did really love you. maybe in the end but i doubt it. if she really loved you she wouldnt be doing what shes doing. trust me i know girls. i am a girl. lol. just seriously move on.
%26amp;%26amp; of course it going to be hard to let go, %26amp; yes it hit you hard because after all the anger the emotions came. Thats why you feel the way you do. But its because you did truely care about her. It might be hard at first, and since it was a long relationship; maybe harder. but youll forget about her and look at her as someone who was and is no more.
-- i hope i helped :)
im goin thru the same thing with my ex we were 2gether for 2 years.. find a way to make her jealous like act like it dosnt bother u go out FLIRT WITH HER FRIENDS on facebook everywhere! us women hate it so much even if u think her friends ugly it axually works.. cry and let it all out even if ur a man its ok 2 cry! if she sees you dont want her back she'll want u back im a female trust me. i hope everything works for you.
Don't CHASE them...REPLACE them!
wow ditch her and move on. school should be your priority obviously she dnt love you. Move On :)
try to move on, maybe she will realize what a great person u where, if not, then her loss, im trying to do the same tho my ex is away in boot camp.
find someone else, then make her jealous
How can i deal with this break up?
well ill start from the begining i was with him for almost 2 years and just out of the blue he wanted to take a break for a few weeks i said ok. then as it went on i found out he left me for some other girl from his friend. so i just kept playin his game.. i hung out with a gew guys and he found out and got angry with me. and today i texted him telling him i didnt want this break and he told me he didnt want to be with me anymore because he feels like i went out there and had sex with other guys and that i drank and smoked weed. and that i shouldnt have done that or he would still want me, he didnt believe me when i told him it was not true. he said that he still didnt want to be with me and now im so hurt that after the 2 years we spent together and the loved we shared is shadderd. can someone please tell me how to deal with the pain. it hurts so bad all i think about is him. and i dont want to do this i dont want to feel like this. can someone please help me out. i need some helpHow can i deal with this break up?
Just hang around friends and do things to occupy your time.Think of it as,if he cared he would never have done this.He will come back and when he does dont accept him back.After two years of being with you he should have trusted you and known you wouldnt sleep with anyone else.Count it as a lesson learned and prosper from this experience.How can i deal with this break up?
well you let one go but dont forget there are more fishes in the ocean and take it as his loss not yours
Just hang around friends and do things to occupy your time.Think of it as,if he cared he would never have done this.He will come back and when he does dont accept him back.After two years of being with you he should have trusted you and known you wouldnt sleep with anyone else.Count it as a lesson learned and prosper from this experience.How can i deal with this break up?
well you let one go but dont forget there are more fishes in the ocean and take it as his loss not yours
How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
Me and my ex have been on and off for the pasted mouth, two weeks ago she calls me and want to get back with me. I agree, and we pick up where we left off. During the week i felt nothing wrong. She talked me how much she loved me and how she never wanted to leave me agian. Then when she got back from a trip last week she seemed distantant agian. Then on thanksgiving she told me she wants to move on. I called her again the next day and i asked her why she came back in the first place. She said she want to see if she can force herself to love me. But i dont understand how i could have missed those signs. I am confused and scared. I believe she doesnt know what she want and i think she may do this again. I want to move on but i still love her. I haven't talked to her in like three days now and i just dont know what to do. She was my first love. She told me she want to be alone and move on. but i cant for some reason. I still want her. What do i do? how can i move on or get her back?How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
Even if you still love her,,, she is not yours.... She doesn't feel the same way anymore... That should be enough. DO you want to be in a one-sided relationship.???? That would be devastating for your spirit and emotionally.... The fact that she is bouncing back and forth tells me she has a hard time controlling her impulses..She is playing with you like a puppet and is not even aware of it, as she is very selfish...
I know you love her, but you now know what she is Like and I think you want someone more stable in your life.... This is your release from her clutches, so walk away, lick your wounds and take your power back and stand tall..You didn't do anything wrong, so there is no making up for something... Life has a funny way of making decisions for us and be glad that you didn't loose anymore time. By the way , you can't be friends now either... it is too painful and she would be trying to manipulate you.. Get busy with family and friends and keep occupied... Once you heal a bit , then ask out someone else... don't rush into something , as you are nOT ready and would only hurt the other person.. and you know how that feels....give yourself some time bud....How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
You should move on, don't try to get her back. She missed you and thought she wanted to be back with you, but when you were back together, she didn't feel it. So she was honest and told you she wanted to move on. The best thing you can do is to involve yourself with other people and things and keep busy. Time will pass and you will be able to get over her. Also remember that your first love is the hardest to get over. Not that another one will be easy, but first love and all hurts and you think this is the one. Know that there is someone else out there for you that will love you and want to be with you. Good luck
I hate it when women treat men like that. That's why there are so many players in this world because of all the broken hearts around here. Try distracting yourself from her.
Its very easy to go through a good relationship and the true strength of your relationship comes out when you face problems. If its a case where you two just cant be together because of differencesm you need to take a mature approch to it and think for yourself what good it would do for both of you to be together. I think its always to part on good terms and be friends rather than being bitter and wasting everything that you went through together.
If you are sad, well then just go ahead and cry. Its fine to feel bad, depressed and hurt and time is the biggest healer. You should also try and change your lifestyle so that you are doing different things that are taking up your time.
Time will take care of the rest.
honey...you poor man. On again off again relationships are never going to get better. Move on. Let your heart heal. This relationship is just a repeated heartbreak. dont let her keep running back. If she cant honestly love you...you should look for someone who can.
good luck !
Even if you still love her,,, she is not yours.... She doesn't feel the same way anymore... That should be enough. DO you want to be in a one-sided relationship.???? That would be devastating for your spirit and emotionally.... The fact that she is bouncing back and forth tells me she has a hard time controlling her impulses..She is playing with you like a puppet and is not even aware of it, as she is very selfish...
I know you love her, but you now know what she is Like and I think you want someone more stable in your life.... This is your release from her clutches, so walk away, lick your wounds and take your power back and stand tall..You didn't do anything wrong, so there is no making up for something... Life has a funny way of making decisions for us and be glad that you didn't loose anymore time. By the way , you can't be friends now either... it is too painful and she would be trying to manipulate you.. Get busy with family and friends and keep occupied... Once you heal a bit , then ask out someone else... don't rush into something , as you are nOT ready and would only hurt the other person.. and you know how that feels....give yourself some time bud....How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
You should move on, don't try to get her back. She missed you and thought she wanted to be back with you, but when you were back together, she didn't feel it. So she was honest and told you she wanted to move on. The best thing you can do is to involve yourself with other people and things and keep busy. Time will pass and you will be able to get over her. Also remember that your first love is the hardest to get over. Not that another one will be easy, but first love and all hurts and you think this is the one. Know that there is someone else out there for you that will love you and want to be with you. Good luck
I hate it when women treat men like that. That's why there are so many players in this world because of all the broken hearts around here. Try distracting yourself from her.
Its very easy to go through a good relationship and the true strength of your relationship comes out when you face problems. If its a case where you two just cant be together because of differencesm you need to take a mature approch to it and think for yourself what good it would do for both of you to be together. I think its always to part on good terms and be friends rather than being bitter and wasting everything that you went through together.
If you are sad, well then just go ahead and cry. Its fine to feel bad, depressed and hurt and time is the biggest healer. You should also try and change your lifestyle so that you are doing different things that are taking up your time.
Time will take care of the rest.
honey...you poor man. On again off again relationships are never going to get better. Move on. Let your heart heal. This relationship is just a repeated heartbreak. dont let her keep running back. If she cant honestly love you...you should look for someone who can.
good luck !
How do i deal with this break up?
I had been dating this guy for 10 months, and I fell in love with him. Not that adult love, but you know... the well-known and frequently experienced teenager love. Yea, I know people say ';You're too young!'; But, really? We have ALL experienced it, and him and I had something amazing. Our chemistry was PERFECT, and he became my best friend. After he broke up with me (2 months ago, Feb. 6 2009) I became insane. I lost my best friend and boyfriend. I can't adjust. He still liked me after the break up, but I ruined that by not giving him space or letting him go. I still like him a lot, I got to different counselors, I try to talk to other guys, but I just like him so much. What do I do?! And what if I want him back..? Please help..?How do i deal with this break up?
Honey you're right - we have all gone through, or will go through, this teenage intense love. It's part of growing and part of life.
The sad thing is, it can hurt like hell!
Look, I don't wanna use the cliches, but they're right. There are more fish in the sea and time IS a great healer. The thing is, when you experience that first proper feeling of love, it ends in the first proper feeling of lost love - and I know, it is really difficult.
The thing is, is it HIM you miss or what you shared? Being with someone is a great feeling and one that is especially intense when you're younger. It's hard to let go, but you have to try.
Let it take its course and work on moving on. It's great that you're talking to other guys, and if they're not interesting you, maybe you're not ready. Cry and let it all out. Get a diary - write it all down and help clear your head. Don't analyse it too much either. Maybe not seeing your counselors will help too - if you're talking about it too much you'll never let it go.
Don't let it ruin your life though - he was not Mr Right - he was Mr Right-Now. Treasure it and try to let go. But wait until you're ready before dating again.
Good luck - it WILL get better, I promise
Honey you're right - we have all gone through, or will go through, this teenage intense love. It's part of growing and part of life.
The sad thing is, it can hurt like hell!
Look, I don't wanna use the cliches, but they're right. There are more fish in the sea and time IS a great healer. The thing is, when you experience that first proper feeling of love, it ends in the first proper feeling of lost love - and I know, it is really difficult.
The thing is, is it HIM you miss or what you shared? Being with someone is a great feeling and one that is especially intense when you're younger. It's hard to let go, but you have to try.
Let it take its course and work on moving on. It's great that you're talking to other guys, and if they're not interesting you, maybe you're not ready. Cry and let it all out. Get a diary - write it all down and help clear your head. Don't analyse it too much either. Maybe not seeing your counselors will help too - if you're talking about it too much you'll never let it go.
Don't let it ruin your life though - he was not Mr Right - he was Mr Right-Now. Treasure it and try to let go. But wait until you're ready before dating again.
Good luck - it WILL get better, I promise
How to deal with a break up and how close is too close?
This all started a month and a half ago. My ex g/f broke off the relationship due to a misunderstood text message sent to a work college, whilst I was contemplating proposing to her. The text it’s self was a mistake on my behalf but I feel it was blown out of proportion and mislead her to believe I had interest in someone else.
Since the break up, she’s said a number of things to suggest that she still wants me in her life, and she said that it was going to be “hard” to be friends, but now I’m not too sure if she really wants me in her life or not.
Saturday night I wiped myself out with alcohol which I understand is a really bad combination when smsing, but because her ex, the father of her two awesome kids, use to abuse her and is now back in her life, I made (I think?) a mistake in telling her how that hurt me to think that she had forgiven him, but not me for something as trivial as a text msg.
There's more to it but it wouldn't fit.. I'm not entirely sure what to do :(How to deal with a break up and how close is too close?
it's over, move onHow to deal with a break up and how close is too close?
I don't think that was even an answer to the question and certainly didn't help, let alone resolved the issue. I don't mean to offend but I don't believe it's as easy to just ';move on';. Perhaps you might want to give more than just an opinion when answering a question.
Since the break up, she’s said a number of things to suggest that she still wants me in her life, and she said that it was going to be “hard” to be friends, but now I’m not too sure if she really wants me in her life or not.
Saturday night I wiped myself out with alcohol which I understand is a really bad combination when smsing, but because her ex, the father of her two awesome kids, use to abuse her and is now back in her life, I made (I think?) a mistake in telling her how that hurt me to think that she had forgiven him, but not me for something as trivial as a text msg.
There's more to it but it wouldn't fit.. I'm not entirely sure what to do :(How to deal with a break up and how close is too close?
it's over, move onHow to deal with a break up and how close is too close?
I don't think that was even an answer to the question and certainly didn't help, let alone resolved the issue. I don't mean to offend but I don't believe it's as easy to just ';move on';. Perhaps you might want to give more than just an opinion when answering a question.
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How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
I just broke up with my girlfriend of over 4 years. Just fyi, I'm 23 and she is 20. We tried to end it with dignity, but it was not at all my decision. At first when I found out she wasn't happy, she was telling me a few things such as she thought I was irresponsible, or that I do things to make her mad on purpose. I didn't really believe that these were the reasons she wanted to end our relationship. They just didn't sound like a good reason to end everything. Well she started to tell me that she just wasn't happy anymore and that nothing makes her happy anymore and she doesn't know what she's doing now. She seems to be confused about the person she is or something to that effect. I know the right thing to do is to just let her go and do her soulsearching or whatever, but it just hurts so bad. How do you deal with this kind of loss. You've spent all your waking moments with this person. They are the most important person in your life, but now I've lost the thing I care most about.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
man............ she is so unlucky to miss this sort of love and lover.may be that's what you call fate.truly understanding how you feel i can jus say one thing.TIME HEALS EVERYTHING. or may be take it this way god has a better person in store for you.find out if she still has da slightest love for you .if so try renewing and restrengthening your love.if not dont waste your life 4 someone who doesn't care n understand your love.life is short.enjoyit.forget her but not the memories of your good times.in your next relation ship be careful and avoid the supposed errors you made this time.good luck.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
You have to respect her decision and go on with your life. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt, but it will get easier as time goes on. Just spend as much time as you can with friends and family then dust yourself off and start going out with other girls.
You know what, I think you are in love with her and you simply want to respect her feelings. 4yrs is enough for you to study your girl, I'd advise you take time and find out what her problem is and mend fences with her. If you are the cause, then do the right. Otherwise, look elsewhere.
god man, you sound like me a year ago....every word you said...its too messy I can't even go there... I would hate that you waste your time moping around and hoping and getting depressed... first thing you should do is feel better about yourself.... yknow, like work out, be more active, talk with other people, try to choose to feel happy... think of what's left and love it and nurture it, like your family....and do things you can be proud of, and be a complete person, the person you always wished you could be... this is the time to be that... and after accomplishing that, you can go back dating...lol there is so much i could tell you..
I hear you my brother and I could totally relate. You need to realize that both of you are young and both are immature in your decision making process because hey your 23 and she's 20. I know when I was that age I was not ready to be in a long term relationship and 4 years is a realllllly long time. At that point you should know if this relationship is for real. You will know if she is willing to work things out. Unfortunately, she is unhappy and would like to move on (which I think its for the better). I had a relationship that lasted almost 5 years and I broke things up because I knew I didnt make her happy anymore....as much as it tore me up inside I knew that I had to let her go. I stopped talking to her for a long time and I knew that she was dating other people and I was doing the same. After a long period we kept in contact but it was never the same. We talk now every blue moon just to keep in touch and see how everything is going but I'm now with someone else and so is she. She seems happy and I could live with that. If both of you end up getting back together after some time then it was meant to be, but seriously dont push it. Good luck.
Your girlfriend seems like she is going through the same
feelings that I once did. Questioning about life, wondering about the latter, and ';soul searching';, as you state it is something I had to do a while back in order to realize what I was really looking for in my life. That realization that I was discontent at where I was in my own personal life is what basically made me sacrifice the man that I loved. Even though he was the one who brought me stableness and structure, ironically, was also the man that made me question the life I had, where I was heading and how I would be if one day he left me. Once those thoughts entered through my mind.. everything else became a matter of questions, answers and nonstop analyzing for me. It was a period of time I had of internal struggling with my independence and basically who I was as a person, and it was very hard to try and find the answers to these questions, especially when I had something so precious I was clinging onto, preventing me from exploring the outside of my boundary lines. It made me utterly confused and not knowing what to do for a long time. Like you, I too was in a 4 year relationship. He was 9 years older than me and at that time, I was very young. It was hard to let him go, even when I was the one to initiate the breakup. Because we were in a relationship for so long.. small matters such as trust and jealousy wasn't the issue for us. We basically had a strong bond and familiarity that we both took comfort in, knowing that society could not steal us away from one another. Because of this comfort, I was able to concentrate on things that were at that time important to me, all the while knowing I had someone there to support me through it. Eventually, over time, built on top of that period of peace, I began to see things in a different light that made me question exactly where I was heading down the road, especially in such a serious relationship.
Your ex must be feeling the same way, and I'm glad that you've realized the right thing to do is to give her some time. She is only 20 and no matter the maturity of her personality, she is still young---no longer a girl, but not yet a woman. You might be content at where you're at right now, but for her, I believe she is confused and searching answers to something much more complicated than what you see. It's a sort of spiritual search that people have, similar to the ones that make people question the existent of God, or the structure of science. Some people live life searching for that one right person to spend eternity with, while others have found that feeling of love and now want to experience more. For your ex, she must have found that love and is now questioning her place in the world and who she is. Because she is only 20, I assume you two have dated when she was around 16. You are probably her first love. This feeling of growing up and not having the chance to experience much (for example, more serious relationships, or perhaps things that she could not do independently-- college, move away? -- because she was tied down to you) and not knowing whether or not you're the right man for her can also be a contribution to her confusion and decisions. This is the type of loss where you can't be selfish but to only be understanding. I am sure you've impacted her life greatly and that she will always love you deep down. Especially since you two departed in such a way. Just give her time and she will appreciate you for this understanding, as a friend or a lover. Perhaps then she'll realize what an ideal relationship she had and how you truly love her like she loves you. After this reassurance, she might just wind up back with you again. But remember, sometimes love is sacrifice. I know it is hard but you can't force her to be with you once you know that she is not ready for a relationship (in your case, not any more). You should deal with this breakup by taking the opportunity to go explore and like her, find yourself as an independent man.
Be strong and from the depths of my heart.. I truly wish you the best of luck with your break up. I know the pain and how helpless you must feel right now in order to seek comfort from here. Please remember that we all go through these once in a life time heartbreaks and that no matter what.. life will still go on. The world is still revolving and so is everything else breathing on it. You will eventually move on.. no matter how unconvincing that sounds to you right now.
man............ she is so unlucky to miss this sort of love and lover.may be that's what you call fate.truly understanding how you feel i can jus say one thing.TIME HEALS EVERYTHING. or may be take it this way god has a better person in store for you.find out if she still has da slightest love for you .if so try renewing and restrengthening your love.if not dont waste your life 4 someone who doesn't care n understand your love.life is short.enjoyit.forget her but not the memories of your good times.in your next relation ship be careful and avoid the supposed errors you made this time.good luck.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
You have to respect her decision and go on with your life. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt, but it will get easier as time goes on. Just spend as much time as you can with friends and family then dust yourself off and start going out with other girls.
You know what, I think you are in love with her and you simply want to respect her feelings. 4yrs is enough for you to study your girl, I'd advise you take time and find out what her problem is and mend fences with her. If you are the cause, then do the right. Otherwise, look elsewhere.
god man, you sound like me a year ago....every word you said...its too messy I can't even go there... I would hate that you waste your time moping around and hoping and getting depressed... first thing you should do is feel better about yourself.... yknow, like work out, be more active, talk with other people, try to choose to feel happy... think of what's left and love it and nurture it, like your family....and do things you can be proud of, and be a complete person, the person you always wished you could be... this is the time to be that... and after accomplishing that, you can go back dating...lol there is so much i could tell you..
I hear you my brother and I could totally relate. You need to realize that both of you are young and both are immature in your decision making process because hey your 23 and she's 20. I know when I was that age I was not ready to be in a long term relationship and 4 years is a realllllly long time. At that point you should know if this relationship is for real. You will know if she is willing to work things out. Unfortunately, she is unhappy and would like to move on (which I think its for the better). I had a relationship that lasted almost 5 years and I broke things up because I knew I didnt make her happy anymore....as much as it tore me up inside I knew that I had to let her go. I stopped talking to her for a long time and I knew that she was dating other people and I was doing the same. After a long period we kept in contact but it was never the same. We talk now every blue moon just to keep in touch and see how everything is going but I'm now with someone else and so is she. She seems happy and I could live with that. If both of you end up getting back together after some time then it was meant to be, but seriously dont push it. Good luck.
Your girlfriend seems like she is going through the same
feelings that I once did. Questioning about life, wondering about the latter, and ';soul searching';, as you state it is something I had to do a while back in order to realize what I was really looking for in my life. That realization that I was discontent at where I was in my own personal life is what basically made me sacrifice the man that I loved. Even though he was the one who brought me stableness and structure, ironically, was also the man that made me question the life I had, where I was heading and how I would be if one day he left me. Once those thoughts entered through my mind.. everything else became a matter of questions, answers and nonstop analyzing for me. It was a period of time I had of internal struggling with my independence and basically who I was as a person, and it was very hard to try and find the answers to these questions, especially when I had something so precious I was clinging onto, preventing me from exploring the outside of my boundary lines. It made me utterly confused and not knowing what to do for a long time. Like you, I too was in a 4 year relationship. He was 9 years older than me and at that time, I was very young. It was hard to let him go, even when I was the one to initiate the breakup. Because we were in a relationship for so long.. small matters such as trust and jealousy wasn't the issue for us. We basically had a strong bond and familiarity that we both took comfort in, knowing that society could not steal us away from one another. Because of this comfort, I was able to concentrate on things that were at that time important to me, all the while knowing I had someone there to support me through it. Eventually, over time, built on top of that period of peace, I began to see things in a different light that made me question exactly where I was heading down the road, especially in such a serious relationship.
Your ex must be feeling the same way, and I'm glad that you've realized the right thing to do is to give her some time. She is only 20 and no matter the maturity of her personality, she is still young---no longer a girl, but not yet a woman. You might be content at where you're at right now, but for her, I believe she is confused and searching answers to something much more complicated than what you see. It's a sort of spiritual search that people have, similar to the ones that make people question the existent of God, or the structure of science. Some people live life searching for that one right person to spend eternity with, while others have found that feeling of love and now want to experience more. For your ex, she must have found that love and is now questioning her place in the world and who she is. Because she is only 20, I assume you two have dated when she was around 16. You are probably her first love. This feeling of growing up and not having the chance to experience much (for example, more serious relationships, or perhaps things that she could not do independently-- college, move away? -- because she was tied down to you) and not knowing whether or not you're the right man for her can also be a contribution to her confusion and decisions. This is the type of loss where you can't be selfish but to only be understanding. I am sure you've impacted her life greatly and that she will always love you deep down. Especially since you two departed in such a way. Just give her time and she will appreciate you for this understanding, as a friend or a lover. Perhaps then she'll realize what an ideal relationship she had and how you truly love her like she loves you. After this reassurance, she might just wind up back with you again. But remember, sometimes love is sacrifice. I know it is hard but you can't force her to be with you once you know that she is not ready for a relationship (in your case, not any more). You should deal with this breakup by taking the opportunity to go explore and like her, find yourself as an independent man.
Be strong and from the depths of my heart.. I truly wish you the best of luck with your break up. I know the pain and how helpless you must feel right now in order to seek comfort from here. Please remember that we all go through these once in a life time heartbreaks and that no matter what.. life will still go on. The world is still revolving and so is everything else breathing on it. You will eventually move on.. no matter how unconvincing that sounds to you right now.
How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
and I am a single mom he is the first guy that i have let around my son execpt family and his father and i just think the idea of a new relationship is scary how will i know who to trust again. He was really good with my son; my son is almost six monthsHow do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Only time helps. stay away from anyone who is just cruising.How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Seems to have some things in his favor.I know your son is too little yet to be aware of this guy.But if he's into meeting with your family,then this a good sign.You are right to be cautious thoughlosing hair myspace commentes
Only time helps. stay away from anyone who is just cruising.How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Seems to have some things in his favor.I know your son is too little yet to be aware of this guy.But if he's into meeting with your family,then this a good sign.You are right to be cautious though
How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
i just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years..i had to..he hit me..i'm 19 and even though i know i had to break up with me the pain is killing me..has anyone gone through the same thing?? any advice? since i only hung out with have i'm not even close to my friends anymore..how long do u think it will take to heal..he still calls me and calls me and calls me??do u think i'll feel the most pain when he stops calling..please help
i don't want to end up going back to him because i know he will hit me again!!!How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
FIRST OF ALL CUT HIM OFF TOTALLY, SCREEN HIS CALLS , HE'LL TRY AND TRY UNTIL HE'S FED UP,HE'S A LOSER FOR HITTING YOU,
ALL I'M GONNA SAY IS UR STILL YOUNG U DON'T NEED THIS ****
DROP THAT LOSER NOW!!!!
GOOD LUCKHow do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
defiantly DONT go back. break ups are very difficult especially one of 5 years.....if he still is calling you then no matter how hard it is DONT answer his calls.....you need to distance yourself away from him and talking to him on the phone or really anytime isn't going to help since you just broke up.....i don't know how long it will take because everyone will heal at a different pace.....just go out make new friends and keep yourself busy....your pain will eventually start to fade away maybe slowly but it will. just keep yourself away from him until you have completely gotten over him because then it will be way difficult to ever get over the relationship
hope i helped :)
Think about this, if he truly loves you then he wouldn't be hitting on you and causing you pain. He has some type of mental issue! Be glad that you were able to leave him. Find comfort in the fact that you will be able to love again. If you can, change your number beacuse anytime he calls it will only open old wounds. It will get easier over time.
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i'm so sorry that he hit you: a guy like that is not worth your time and affection. i think that you should really find some good friends who will help you through this. and i don't mean alcohol... maybe avoid relationships for awhile... take some time for yourself..maybe try yoga?
xoxo
no dont go back to him, it might take yo months to get over him trust me ive been threw it. just make sure you throw all the gifts and memories away and try not to think of him i know it will be hard.
Hope i helped %26lt;3
Cut him out of your life. Get rid of anything that will remind you of him.
just remember HE hit you. what hurts more?
Watch the movie ';Yes Man'; and do what Jim Carrie does.
i don't want to end up going back to him because i know he will hit me again!!!How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
FIRST OF ALL CUT HIM OFF TOTALLY, SCREEN HIS CALLS , HE'LL TRY AND TRY UNTIL HE'S FED UP,HE'S A LOSER FOR HITTING YOU,
ALL I'M GONNA SAY IS UR STILL YOUNG U DON'T NEED THIS ****
DROP THAT LOSER NOW!!!!
GOOD LUCKHow do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
defiantly DONT go back. break ups are very difficult especially one of 5 years.....if he still is calling you then no matter how hard it is DONT answer his calls.....you need to distance yourself away from him and talking to him on the phone or really anytime isn't going to help since you just broke up.....i don't know how long it will take because everyone will heal at a different pace.....just go out make new friends and keep yourself busy....your pain will eventually start to fade away maybe slowly but it will. just keep yourself away from him until you have completely gotten over him because then it will be way difficult to ever get over the relationship
hope i helped :)
Think about this, if he truly loves you then he wouldn't be hitting on you and causing you pain. He has some type of mental issue! Be glad that you were able to leave him. Find comfort in the fact that you will be able to love again. If you can, change your number beacuse anytime he calls it will only open old wounds. It will get easier over time.
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i'm so sorry that he hit you: a guy like that is not worth your time and affection. i think that you should really find some good friends who will help you through this. and i don't mean alcohol... maybe avoid relationships for awhile... take some time for yourself..maybe try yoga?
xoxo
no dont go back to him, it might take yo months to get over him trust me ive been threw it. just make sure you throw all the gifts and memories away and try not to think of him i know it will be hard.
Hope i helped %26lt;3
Cut him out of your life. Get rid of anything that will remind you of him.
just remember HE hit you. what hurts more?
Watch the movie ';Yes Man'; and do what Jim Carrie does.
How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
i've been wt my boyfriend well now ex...for more than 6 years now, we have had a lot of problems throughout our relationship...cheating from his part, breaking up with me numerous times just 4 the fact of him wanting to go out and experience life.. we were high school sweethearts! i never been or had another boyfriend and he never had another girlfriend....i know he still loves me and i love him but our last fight was actually for a stupid reason but i think he is just so tired of so much drama that after that he asked for some time to figure were things are going...but at the same time he said he wanted to just break up... i have extreme anxiety, have been prescribed with antidepressants and i just feel like i wanna call him all the time to yield at him and ask why he is doing this to me... i'm very hurt.. how can i cope with the anxiety and depression, how do I just move on. any tips ;)How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
So did you not have another boyfriend just like he never had another girlfriend? Sounds like he's been sowing his oats while you remained the dutiful, faithful girlfriend. After 6 years and you're still just a girlfriend? There's a time to move on, experience life, and find out who you are. Good luck...How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
If it's not working out now, it won't work out later.
Just do your best to forget about him.
Surround yourself with happy people and friends.
Actually I wouldn't look for another guy right away.
Go out for a night with your girls, you don't need more
guy drama--sounds like you've had plenty of that.
Rent a romantic comedy and pig out with your girls!!~
ask yourself this question,is he going to stop flirting around after marriage.if not then move on with life.start asking the question,who am i?what kind of person am i?am i treating others the way i want others to treat me.
yes go look for someone else it sound mean but as soon as u find soemone cute u will be fine its always worked for me too u just get so caughtup in th enew person its like ex boyfriend who? go out with friends too single friends ones with boyfrinds or girlfriends will just make u more depressed. u will be ok we all go through a broken heart atleast once usually more.
is there another guy that u like cuz in situations like this the girl likes another guy kinda go out with some 1 new and c if he's tryna get back together with u if s0 g0 out with the new guy still
i'm practically in the same boat girl, when you get good answers, let me know.
well I wasn't with my ex for as long as u were with yours (only 1 yr) but he was my first and only everything, and one night I got a text saying that it was over, 2 weeks later I found out that he was now with a co-worker of his.. I never got a phone call and I haven't seen or heard from him since (this was 5 months ago). I was devastated, at first I couldn't eat or sleep for almost 2 weeks. But I clung to my friends and family for support %26amp; advice. Many nights I wanted call him, or go see him but I knew he would just act like a coward and ignore me so i didn't. But i did erase his number from my cell, and put up all the things he ever gave me (in a box). I forced myself to find new things to do, and while my heart was still broken I fixed it by loving myself. I now know I am better off without him, even though I didn't believe it @ first I got over it, I have actually been great for a long time (I'm even flirting with a new guy now, he's great)!! Be strong you can get over it too!!!!
Good luck!!! %26amp; be STRONG!!!
Romantic depression cure:
Step 1 - Leave cheating, lying, extremely selfish boyfriend.
I'm sorry this had to end badly for you, but your belief that he ';still loves you'; is apparently mistaken. If he DID love you, he never would have done all of that fooling around in the first place, much less break up with you now. From what you've said, the only real love in this relationship is your boyfriend's egotistical love for himself. It's going to suck emotionally for a while, I won't lie, but putting this jerk behind you is the only way for you to move on and become happy again.
Step 2 - Cultivate a healthy (and if need be, angry) self-respect.
You're blaming yourself (';drama';) for this break-up. Don't. As I said before, this guy's immense selfishness torpedoed the relationship. That isn't a bad reflection on you; it's a reflection on his own bad attitude. Sooner or later (probably sooner) he will get hurt by someone else who refuses to put up with his crap the way you did, and it will be a good lesson for him. In the meantime, don't inflate his huge ego even further. Hold your head high and move on.
Step 3 -- Find new boyfriend who cares about YOU and loves you for who YOU are, not as an ornament for his ego.
Take your time with this one--no need to hurry, or find a ';rebound'; guy, which could hurt the situation even worse. Instead, once you're totally over your ex, or at least 99% over him, get back out into the dating world and find someone who cares as much about you as you do about him.
If you want to move on, go and look for different guys. You may think he's the best guy, but you haven't been with anyone else to realize he may be the worst. Maybe try meeting someone new, then things can only go up from there. Just keep your distance, it worked for me. Not talking to him, and not being in his presence helps so much. YOu'll see
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Sounds like he's a tool. You shouldn't have to put up with someone breaking up with you all the time or cheating on you. He obviously isn't ready for a serious commitment if he wants to keep breaking up so he can ';experience the world';.
He's a jerk, but it's still going to be hard to get over him. Just spend time with your friends and family and do things that YOU want to do. Pamper yourself and make some goals for yourself. When you reach them you'll feel a great new sense of self-worth. This will help you get over him.
Sorry, girl.
So did you not have another boyfriend just like he never had another girlfriend? Sounds like he's been sowing his oats while you remained the dutiful, faithful girlfriend. After 6 years and you're still just a girlfriend? There's a time to move on, experience life, and find out who you are. Good luck...How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
If it's not working out now, it won't work out later.
Just do your best to forget about him.
Surround yourself with happy people and friends.
Actually I wouldn't look for another guy right away.
Go out for a night with your girls, you don't need more
guy drama--sounds like you've had plenty of that.
Rent a romantic comedy and pig out with your girls!!~
ask yourself this question,is he going to stop flirting around after marriage.if not then move on with life.start asking the question,who am i?what kind of person am i?am i treating others the way i want others to treat me.
yes go look for someone else it sound mean but as soon as u find soemone cute u will be fine its always worked for me too u just get so caughtup in th enew person its like ex boyfriend who? go out with friends too single friends ones with boyfrinds or girlfriends will just make u more depressed. u will be ok we all go through a broken heart atleast once usually more.
is there another guy that u like cuz in situations like this the girl likes another guy kinda go out with some 1 new and c if he's tryna get back together with u if s0 g0 out with the new guy still
i'm practically in the same boat girl, when you get good answers, let me know.
well I wasn't with my ex for as long as u were with yours (only 1 yr) but he was my first and only everything, and one night I got a text saying that it was over, 2 weeks later I found out that he was now with a co-worker of his.. I never got a phone call and I haven't seen or heard from him since (this was 5 months ago). I was devastated, at first I couldn't eat or sleep for almost 2 weeks. But I clung to my friends and family for support %26amp; advice. Many nights I wanted call him, or go see him but I knew he would just act like a coward and ignore me so i didn't. But i did erase his number from my cell, and put up all the things he ever gave me (in a box). I forced myself to find new things to do, and while my heart was still broken I fixed it by loving myself. I now know I am better off without him, even though I didn't believe it @ first I got over it, I have actually been great for a long time (I'm even flirting with a new guy now, he's great)!! Be strong you can get over it too!!!!
Good luck!!! %26amp; be STRONG!!!
Romantic depression cure:
Step 1 - Leave cheating, lying, extremely selfish boyfriend.
I'm sorry this had to end badly for you, but your belief that he ';still loves you'; is apparently mistaken. If he DID love you, he never would have done all of that fooling around in the first place, much less break up with you now. From what you've said, the only real love in this relationship is your boyfriend's egotistical love for himself. It's going to suck emotionally for a while, I won't lie, but putting this jerk behind you is the only way for you to move on and become happy again.
Step 2 - Cultivate a healthy (and if need be, angry) self-respect.
You're blaming yourself (';drama';) for this break-up. Don't. As I said before, this guy's immense selfishness torpedoed the relationship. That isn't a bad reflection on you; it's a reflection on his own bad attitude. Sooner or later (probably sooner) he will get hurt by someone else who refuses to put up with his crap the way you did, and it will be a good lesson for him. In the meantime, don't inflate his huge ego even further. Hold your head high and move on.
Step 3 -- Find new boyfriend who cares about YOU and loves you for who YOU are, not as an ornament for his ego.
Take your time with this one--no need to hurry, or find a ';rebound'; guy, which could hurt the situation even worse. Instead, once you're totally over your ex, or at least 99% over him, get back out into the dating world and find someone who cares as much about you as you do about him.
If you want to move on, go and look for different guys. You may think he's the best guy, but you haven't been with anyone else to realize he may be the worst. Maybe try meeting someone new, then things can only go up from there. Just keep your distance, it worked for me. Not talking to him, and not being in his presence helps so much. YOu'll see
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Sounds like he's a tool. You shouldn't have to put up with someone breaking up with you all the time or cheating on you. He obviously isn't ready for a serious commitment if he wants to keep breaking up so he can ';experience the world';.
He's a jerk, but it's still going to be hard to get over him. Just spend time with your friends and family and do things that YOU want to do. Pamper yourself and make some goals for yourself. When you reach them you'll feel a great new sense of self-worth. This will help you get over him.
Sorry, girl.
How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
ok here it goes: For 8 months i have been going out with this guy. We were seriously into each other, and it was something really special. Well, now we go to different schools, and barely talk to each other( did i mention he lives about 4 hours away) so a few days ago we broke up and went our ways. What really gets me is that he told me he loved me before he said bye, completely. Please, someone tell me what the hell i can do to get over this break up, seriously, it hurts really bad. please. How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
a long distance relationship will not work.. of course you both still love each other but you both know its not going to work. what you need to do is try and keep occupied, keep your mind off of him as much as possible. go out with your friends, tell them how your feeling they will be there for you, that's what they are there for! don't worry things will get better! How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
long relationship's really don't work work bc of this, like if you''d call him he'd be busy and you would never find the right time to talk, i think you should just move on, and enjoy your time, and eventually you'll find a guy in the right place at the right time for you =]
a long distance relationship will not work.. of course you both still love each other but you both know its not going to work. what you need to do is try and keep occupied, keep your mind off of him as much as possible. go out with your friends, tell them how your feeling they will be there for you, that's what they are there for! don't worry things will get better! How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
long relationship's really don't work work bc of this, like if you''d call him he'd be busy and you would never find the right time to talk, i think you should just move on, and enjoy your time, and eventually you'll find a guy in the right place at the right time for you =]
How do I deal with this break up?
My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 days ago. I think it was a mutual break up, but I'm the one who came out and said that it wasn't going to work. He asked me if I'd still talk to him and stuff, and I have to see him this upcoming weekend at a graduation party for a mutual friend. I don't know if i should talk to him before I see him at this party, or wait until the party to talk to him??? The thing is we both still like eachother and the reason for us breaking up makes no sense. We both are confused and hurt.How do I deal with this break up?
Break-Ups can be way way hard. I know. believe me. My x of 8 months (which i liked for 3 previous yrs before he ask me out) broke up with me because I was supposidly getting in the way of him and Jesus. and i was the one that made him start going to church and stuff. and now he is with a girl that has slept with pretty much any guy she can get her hands on and we were on a charter bus going to Chicago because we are all in the same show choir at school and they were sitting behind me basically getting it on on the CHARTER BUS FULL OF KIDS AND PARENTS!!!! but i got over that and on top of that... him and his new girl starting making fun of me and my mom for laughing at a joke this guy was telling us. what a douche... gosh.. but anyways. i know its hard. but be strong and talk to him whenever your heart tells you to. it always knows best. but be carefull and don't seem like you need to talk to him. i say maybe just wait til the party. :)How do I deal with this break up?
If you broke up mutually then there must be something wrong, maybe not something that should break you two up, but something you two need to sit down and talk about.
See, you still like eachother, so breaking up seems pointless... the only problem I could imagine your relationship had was a lack of COMMUNICATION.
When your in a relationship you get so caught up in the other person that you forget their flaws and therefore you forget to communicate, If you don't communicate you keep things bottled up until it feels like there is something wrong, thats why you get the sense to break-uo, but clearly all you need to do is talk, be honest and open and let him talk and ask that he let you talk.
I think that if you two were to sit down, alone, with no distractions and talk about your relationship you'll see that the break-up isn't solving your problem, that you still have feeling s for eachother and you should communicate whats on your mond more.
If you communicate your feeling to your Ex, the if you don't get back togethr, you'll deff. be close friends..
Hope all goes well.
Hope I helped,
Crissy
Obviously, you need to talk to him before the party. Sounds to me like you both have somethings that need to be worked out! You can't leave things unsaid and just move on to becoming just friends. Friends are honest with each other and talk about things. Sounds to me like communication may have been one of you and your ex's problems? Talk to him and work through your problems, if he's unwilling to talk it through, then he made the decision easy for you! Good luck!
alot of people say they are going to be friends after a break up, but the majority of them don't... if you both think the break up was nonsense then why aren't you two back together?? as for right now, when you are ';not together'; just wait until the party, then when you find each other at the party, ask him if you two can talk sometime, whether it's at the party or later, then tell him that you are confused and hurt just as much as he is... and let him know that the break up is making no sense. just be open and honest and let him know how you feel. and by not talking him until the party will make him miss you even more, and vice versa... just make sure you tell him how much you m issed him!
it will be hard to see him there so hummm, have or do you guys still act like friends to each other if so talk on the phone, but the thing is those old boyfriend like feelings are gonna come in to play when you see him so just be careful.
It is possible to be friends after a break up. It's ok to talk to him whenever you want to. If you still like each other, why break up?
talk to him before hand so it wont b ackward
Break-Ups can be way way hard. I know. believe me. My x of 8 months (which i liked for 3 previous yrs before he ask me out) broke up with me because I was supposidly getting in the way of him and Jesus. and i was the one that made him start going to church and stuff. and now he is with a girl that has slept with pretty much any guy she can get her hands on and we were on a charter bus going to Chicago because we are all in the same show choir at school and they were sitting behind me basically getting it on on the CHARTER BUS FULL OF KIDS AND PARENTS!!!! but i got over that and on top of that... him and his new girl starting making fun of me and my mom for laughing at a joke this guy was telling us. what a douche... gosh.. but anyways. i know its hard. but be strong and talk to him whenever your heart tells you to. it always knows best. but be carefull and don't seem like you need to talk to him. i say maybe just wait til the party. :)How do I deal with this break up?
If you broke up mutually then there must be something wrong, maybe not something that should break you two up, but something you two need to sit down and talk about.
See, you still like eachother, so breaking up seems pointless... the only problem I could imagine your relationship had was a lack of COMMUNICATION.
When your in a relationship you get so caught up in the other person that you forget their flaws and therefore you forget to communicate, If you don't communicate you keep things bottled up until it feels like there is something wrong, thats why you get the sense to break-uo, but clearly all you need to do is talk, be honest and open and let him talk and ask that he let you talk.
I think that if you two were to sit down, alone, with no distractions and talk about your relationship you'll see that the break-up isn't solving your problem, that you still have feeling s for eachother and you should communicate whats on your mond more.
If you communicate your feeling to your Ex, the if you don't get back togethr, you'll deff. be close friends..
Hope all goes well.
Hope I helped,
Crissy
Obviously, you need to talk to him before the party. Sounds to me like you both have somethings that need to be worked out! You can't leave things unsaid and just move on to becoming just friends. Friends are honest with each other and talk about things. Sounds to me like communication may have been one of you and your ex's problems? Talk to him and work through your problems, if he's unwilling to talk it through, then he made the decision easy for you! Good luck!
alot of people say they are going to be friends after a break up, but the majority of them don't... if you both think the break up was nonsense then why aren't you two back together?? as for right now, when you are ';not together'; just wait until the party, then when you find each other at the party, ask him if you two can talk sometime, whether it's at the party or later, then tell him that you are confused and hurt just as much as he is... and let him know that the break up is making no sense. just be open and honest and let him know how you feel. and by not talking him until the party will make him miss you even more, and vice versa... just make sure you tell him how much you m issed him!
it will be hard to see him there so hummm, have or do you guys still act like friends to each other if so talk on the phone, but the thing is those old boyfriend like feelings are gonna come in to play when you see him so just be careful.
It is possible to be friends after a break up. It's ok to talk to him whenever you want to. If you still like each other, why break up?
talk to him before hand so it wont b ackward
How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
I'm not experience enough to know how to leave someone alone long enough to let them come back around. How do I do this? How long do I wait and when the time comes, what do I say?
Just recently he broke up with me and I haven't been sure how to handle it.
Please keep in mind we were best friends for a long time. I wrote him every day in basic training and always supported him and when he could, he'd do the same.
Now that we are broken up, I have tried talking to him but all he does is call me crazy.
I'm not exactly sure how to handle this break up especially because he still acts like we are in a relationship.
[Meaning he gets jealous when other guys flirt with me]
For the first few days he acted like he needed his space, but when I gave it to him he would only read comments on myspace from other guys and freak out
I DO know where everything went wrong, I just need to know how to become detached enough for him to have breathing space, with out him getting mad at me. I do not like making him upset.
Background:
About six months ago, I fell in love with this amazing guy. The only problem was that he was to leave for the boot camp a few days later, he asked me to be his girlfriend before he left and I happily agreed.
A few months later we started having problems because he started acting careless about the content of his myspace and facebook pages. Mainly, I was upset because these were the only things that I could see from him. I didn't trust him with my feelings. Seemed fair.
After he realized the mistake he had made, he apologized and made it clear he wouldn't speak to her or see her again.
Ever since then we had been having problems, mainly because I still felt like I couldn't trust him. I would go to visit him and when I would come back, one of his friends would inappropriately comment his pictures or his page. He still didn't take my feelings and left them where I could see them. This caused our relationship to become even shakier.
About a month ago, I found out through a friend that he was still talking to the girl whom he had posted somewhat inappropriate pictures with. I was devastated. So ever since then it's been a battle of apologize and fix the situation.How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
Listen, he broke up with you, and he hurt you.
You deserve alot better than him. I understand you still have feelings for him and you don't want to make him mad, but you arn't in a relationship anymore. He left you and didn't take your feelings into consideration. Just try to find someone new. As time goes on it'll get easier. It'll hurt for a while, but thats just something that happens, and then one day you'll find the perfect person who treats you good and will give you everything you deserve. And if he gets mad at that, when your happy, then he's not a very good choice. If he was someone you should love with all your heart and stay with, he'd want whats best for you and for you to be happy. Every person has the choice to love who they want to, so if you want to still love him you can, but it'll be painful. The best thing to do is to try and move on. You'll find someone better in time
Just recently he broke up with me and I haven't been sure how to handle it.
Please keep in mind we were best friends for a long time. I wrote him every day in basic training and always supported him and when he could, he'd do the same.
Now that we are broken up, I have tried talking to him but all he does is call me crazy.
I'm not exactly sure how to handle this break up especially because he still acts like we are in a relationship.
[Meaning he gets jealous when other guys flirt with me]
For the first few days he acted like he needed his space, but when I gave it to him he would only read comments on myspace from other guys and freak out
I DO know where everything went wrong, I just need to know how to become detached enough for him to have breathing space, with out him getting mad at me. I do not like making him upset.
Background:
About six months ago, I fell in love with this amazing guy. The only problem was that he was to leave for the boot camp a few days later, he asked me to be his girlfriend before he left and I happily agreed.
A few months later we started having problems because he started acting careless about the content of his myspace and facebook pages. Mainly, I was upset because these were the only things that I could see from him. I didn't trust him with my feelings. Seemed fair.
After he realized the mistake he had made, he apologized and made it clear he wouldn't speak to her or see her again.
Ever since then we had been having problems, mainly because I still felt like I couldn't trust him. I would go to visit him and when I would come back, one of his friends would inappropriately comment his pictures or his page. He still didn't take my feelings and left them where I could see them. This caused our relationship to become even shakier.
About a month ago, I found out through a friend that he was still talking to the girl whom he had posted somewhat inappropriate pictures with. I was devastated. So ever since then it's been a battle of apologize and fix the situation.How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
Listen, he broke up with you, and he hurt you.
You deserve alot better than him. I understand you still have feelings for him and you don't want to make him mad, but you arn't in a relationship anymore. He left you and didn't take your feelings into consideration. Just try to find someone new. As time goes on it'll get easier. It'll hurt for a while, but thats just something that happens, and then one day you'll find the perfect person who treats you good and will give you everything you deserve. And if he gets mad at that, when your happy, then he's not a very good choice. If he was someone you should love with all your heart and stay with, he'd want whats best for you and for you to be happy. Every person has the choice to love who they want to, so if you want to still love him you can, but it'll be painful. The best thing to do is to try and move on. You'll find someone better in time
How do I deal with this break up?
My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 days ago. I think it was a mutual break up, but I'm the one who came out and said that it wasn't going to work. He asked me if I'd still talk to him and stuff, and I have to see him this upcoming weekend at a graduation party for a mutual friend. I don't know if i should talk to him before I see him at this party, or wait until the party to talk to him??? The thing is we both still like eachother and the reason for us breaking up makes no sense. We both are confused and hurt.How do I deal with this break up?
why did you split up in the first place?
maybe you can re-unite at the graduation?
let him contact you before hand or wait until the party... give you both some head space to do some thinking.How do I deal with this break up?
you can speak to him when you see him.. no sence in being rude. really think about your reason for breaking up and if it's a good one or something you cant deal with then dont try to get back together.. i was in a relationship for 6 years and when we broke up i went through what your going through.. even questioned myself.. but you get over it you just gotta let that hurt run it's course.. you will live again.. now i'm more in love than ever before and i wouldnt have found it if i sat like a lost puppy over my ex.. but if your reason is silly and you really love one another..and the both of you want to be back together.. then i would just tell him.. hey i'm sorry i made a mistake and i want you back...
if you still have feelings, why don't you try and work it out. Not talking to him will make him feel like you don't care at all, wait until the party and maybe you should have a long talk about relationship and find out why you broke up in the first place and go from there.
it sounds like maybe you shouldnt of broken up if you both like each other and it was for a stupid reason you should tell him that. I think maybe you should talk to him before the party this way its not weird when you both see eah other and you dont want to fight at someones party. good luck =)
if its meant to be some way yall will fall back into eachother arms.but if you want him and he want you ..gone had and get back together because you gon regrete it if you start seeing him with another woman..so dont give another woman an opportunity to get what you know you should and want to have
Then why did you break up? Bond alittle. Maybe it will work this time... I hope. Well, if you see him at the party then talk to him about it and maybe consiture getting back together...
I would call him before the party and see how he feels about you two possibly giving it another go. Good luck to you!!
you two really need to sit down and talk and try to make some sense out of this whole mess.
its simple if u hate him just tell him that u r sorry and that u can still be friends if u like him just ask him out. and then on da date....this my sound weird but....KISS HIM!
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why did you split up in the first place?
maybe you can re-unite at the graduation?
let him contact you before hand or wait until the party... give you both some head space to do some thinking.How do I deal with this break up?
you can speak to him when you see him.. no sence in being rude. really think about your reason for breaking up and if it's a good one or something you cant deal with then dont try to get back together.. i was in a relationship for 6 years and when we broke up i went through what your going through.. even questioned myself.. but you get over it you just gotta let that hurt run it's course.. you will live again.. now i'm more in love than ever before and i wouldnt have found it if i sat like a lost puppy over my ex.. but if your reason is silly and you really love one another..and the both of you want to be back together.. then i would just tell him.. hey i'm sorry i made a mistake and i want you back...
if you still have feelings, why don't you try and work it out. Not talking to him will make him feel like you don't care at all, wait until the party and maybe you should have a long talk about relationship and find out why you broke up in the first place and go from there.
it sounds like maybe you shouldnt of broken up if you both like each other and it was for a stupid reason you should tell him that. I think maybe you should talk to him before the party this way its not weird when you both see eah other and you dont want to fight at someones party. good luck =)
if its meant to be some way yall will fall back into eachother arms.but if you want him and he want you ..gone had and get back together because you gon regrete it if you start seeing him with another woman..so dont give another woman an opportunity to get what you know you should and want to have
Then why did you break up? Bond alittle. Maybe it will work this time... I hope. Well, if you see him at the party then talk to him about it and maybe consiture getting back together...
I would call him before the party and see how he feels about you two possibly giving it another go. Good luck to you!!
you two really need to sit down and talk and try to make some sense out of this whole mess.
its simple if u hate him just tell him that u r sorry and that u can still be friends if u like him just ask him out. and then on da date....this my sound weird but....KISS HIM!
the best way to get over someone is to get under another want my number lol
How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Im from Scotland and she is Danish and i moved to Copenhagen to be with her. Im 21 and she is 19 and we have been living together for a year and she is still living with me. She told me a few nights ago she wants to break up but she still loves me a lot and wants me to be her best guy friend and stay close with me. She is still living with me 5 days sfter she told me about breaking up and she still sleeps in the same bed as me too.. When she talks a lot of the time she keeps saying things like we and us etc.. I still love her and want to be with her and she still loves me she says and that i will always have that special place in her. What should i do? This is hard. Im just trying my best to respect her feelings and be there for her. She also says the reason for the break up is because she wants to just focus on herself for awhile and not worry about anything else and after time she says there is a good chance we can get back together. Its stupid though as 2 weeks ago we went and just bought a dog together, an 8 weeks old king charles and its getting used to the apartment and if she moves out its going to effect the dog too moving again! Thanks for any help you have to offer!How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
This is what happened...You are 21, she is 19...You two are still at an age where your mind is mostly dominated by your hormones...( don't object to it, trust me I've been there just like millions of other people)
At this age, you should date as many people as you like and enjoy life. Your mind, body, maturity and experience level is not yet ready to handle such a relationship and commitment.
I congratulate her for doing the right thing...She is so young and wants to explore the world and learn more about herself along the way...I think you should do the same...
P.S: Dog is an excuse and you know it...:)How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Tell her to stop messing you around and tell you whats going on. She can't do this to you...Maybe she just said it to get your attention?
Talk to her, find out what shes planning.
i went throught a similar thing we had a dog for about 2 months before we split but the dog is not ur concern, sorry mate but u need to giv her an ultimatum which is either ur with me or ur not, if your not thats fine but move out so i can move on cos i cant while u are here, if we are then u are and work through ur issues.
she is being selfish and only thinking about herself tho, it sounds like she wants to go and experiment other people as she may feel like she is missing out (on the dating game) cos u have been together since she was 16, she mite need a bit of time to make her realise that you are the one for her and 8 times out of ten they do come back.
i wish u all the luck.
Sorry but no excuses. This woman has taken advantage of you. She must have known all along she didn't want something serious yet had you going all the way to Europe to live with her. She basically wants sex and attention without any emotional comittment. Maybe she just isn't romantically attracted to you. Life is too short to hang around for her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life single waiting for a girl who MIGHT come back to you. Forget about her, easier said than done though I know.
You should travel Europe for a bit. Girls love well travelled cultured people.
And icognito, sure its fine to date and have lots of partners but what about the emotions involved? Is love just a casual past time now? This girl had him go all the way to Demark for her. Oh yeah but she is young and confused so it's ok?
Good luck.
Maybe she is not ready yet ...living together is aint easy these days maybe she couldn't cope and felt little responsibility and pressure.Take it easy as i can see her intentions are gud coz she said it to you that Possibility of being together again is there....apart of being friends all the times ...give her space let her think of herself and see what suitable for both of you ...give her the dog as a memory and if u really like n love her u can make the dog an excuse to visit her always !!!
Sometimes we take decisions fast that later we find ourself not able to take them onhold ..u just wait be patient and time will tell ...ur both still young and time is there !!!
Gud luck
This is what happened...You are 21, she is 19...You two are still at an age where your mind is mostly dominated by your hormones...( don't object to it, trust me I've been there just like millions of other people)
At this age, you should date as many people as you like and enjoy life. Your mind, body, maturity and experience level is not yet ready to handle such a relationship and commitment.
I congratulate her for doing the right thing...She is so young and wants to explore the world and learn more about herself along the way...I think you should do the same...
P.S: Dog is an excuse and you know it...:)How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Tell her to stop messing you around and tell you whats going on. She can't do this to you...Maybe she just said it to get your attention?
Talk to her, find out what shes planning.
i went throught a similar thing we had a dog for about 2 months before we split but the dog is not ur concern, sorry mate but u need to giv her an ultimatum which is either ur with me or ur not, if your not thats fine but move out so i can move on cos i cant while u are here, if we are then u are and work through ur issues.
she is being selfish and only thinking about herself tho, it sounds like she wants to go and experiment other people as she may feel like she is missing out (on the dating game) cos u have been together since she was 16, she mite need a bit of time to make her realise that you are the one for her and 8 times out of ten they do come back.
i wish u all the luck.
Sorry but no excuses. This woman has taken advantage of you. She must have known all along she didn't want something serious yet had you going all the way to Europe to live with her. She basically wants sex and attention without any emotional comittment. Maybe she just isn't romantically attracted to you. Life is too short to hang around for her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life single waiting for a girl who MIGHT come back to you. Forget about her, easier said than done though I know.
You should travel Europe for a bit. Girls love well travelled cultured people.
And icognito, sure its fine to date and have lots of partners but what about the emotions involved? Is love just a casual past time now? This girl had him go all the way to Demark for her. Oh yeah but she is young and confused so it's ok?
Good luck.
Maybe she is not ready yet ...living together is aint easy these days maybe she couldn't cope and felt little responsibility and pressure.Take it easy as i can see her intentions are gud coz she said it to you that Possibility of being together again is there....apart of being friends all the times ...give her space let her think of herself and see what suitable for both of you ...give her the dog as a memory and if u really like n love her u can make the dog an excuse to visit her always !!!
Sometimes we take decisions fast that later we find ourself not able to take them onhold ..u just wait be patient and time will tell ...ur both still young and time is there !!!
Gud luck
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