How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?

Im from Scotland and she is Danish and i moved to Copenhagen to be with her. Im 21 and she is 19 and we have been living together for a year and she is still living with me. She told me a few nights ago she wants to break up but she still loves me a lot and wants me to be her best guy friend and stay close with me. She is still living with me 5 days sfter she told me about breaking up and she still sleeps in the same bed as me too.. When she talks a lot of the time she keeps saying things like we and us etc.. I still love her and want to be with her and she still loves me she says and that i will always have that special place in her. What should i do? This is hard. Im just trying my best to respect her feelings and be there for her. She also says the reason for the break up is because she wants to just focus on herself for awhile and not worry about anything else and after time she says there is a good chance we can get back together. Its stupid though as 2 weeks ago we went and just bought a dog together, an 8 weeks old king charles and its getting used to the apartment and if she moves out its going to effect the dog too moving again! Thanks for any help you have to offer!How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
This is what happened...You are 21, she is 19...You two are still at an age where your mind is mostly dominated by your hormones...( don't object to it, trust me I've been there just like millions of other people)





At this age, you should date as many people as you like and enjoy life. Your mind, body, maturity and experience level is not yet ready to handle such a relationship and commitment.





I congratulate her for doing the right thing...She is so young and wants to explore the world and learn more about herself along the way...I think you should do the same...





P.S: Dog is an excuse and you know it...:)How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Tell her to stop messing you around and tell you whats going on. She can't do this to you...Maybe she just said it to get your attention?


Talk to her, find out what shes planning.
i went throught a similar thing we had a dog for about 2 months before we split but the dog is not ur concern, sorry mate but u need to giv her an ultimatum which is either ur with me or ur not, if your not thats fine but move out so i can move on cos i cant while u are here, if we are then u are and work through ur issues.





she is being selfish and only thinking about herself tho, it sounds like she wants to go and experiment other people as she may feel like she is missing out (on the dating game) cos u have been together since she was 16, she mite need a bit of time to make her realise that you are the one for her and 8 times out of ten they do come back.


i wish u all the luck.
Sorry but no excuses. This woman has taken advantage of you. She must have known all along she didn't want something serious yet had you going all the way to Europe to live with her. She basically wants sex and attention without any emotional comittment. Maybe she just isn't romantically attracted to you. Life is too short to hang around for her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life single waiting for a girl who MIGHT come back to you. Forget about her, easier said than done though I know.





You should travel Europe for a bit. Girls love well travelled cultured people.





And icognito, sure its fine to date and have lots of partners but what about the emotions involved? Is love just a casual past time now? This girl had him go all the way to Demark for her. Oh yeah but she is young and confused so it's ok?


Good luck.
Maybe she is not ready yet ...living together is aint easy these days maybe she couldn't cope and felt little responsibility and pressure.Take it easy as i can see her intentions are gud coz she said it to you that Possibility of being together again is there....apart of being friends all the times ...give her space let her think of herself and see what suitable for both of you ...give her the dog as a memory and if u really like n love her u can make the dog an excuse to visit her always !!!





Sometimes we take decisions fast that later we find ourself not able to take them onhold ..u just wait be patient and time will tell ...ur both still young and time is there !!!





Gud luck