Im current Deployed to Iraq. I've been here for a little over 7 month and have 5 months left. My fiance of 3 years just broke off the engagment and i feel like complete crap. She said that with me being away she is to lonley and cant do it anymore. I would just like to know if there is anything i can do to feel better and not have this on my mind. Im going crazy.How to deal with a Deployment Break Up?
Invest in your love and to be happy.
Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude. When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.How to deal with a Deployment Break Up?
I know it sucks. However, there are better fish in the sea, so to speak.
Like daljack said, be glad that your ex-fiancee quit on you now instead of after you are married. This shows that your ex-fiancee can't handle problems, and things might be worse if you did get married and have to deal with tough life problems like finances, having kids, illnesses, property ownership, your family versus your wife, etc. Trust me, these kind of problems become very hard to deal with if you are married, and the marriage doesn't work out.
Here's my suggestions to you. When you SAFELY finish your tour in Iraq (Thanks for serving our country, BTW), return home in one piece, leave the service with a honorable discharge if your time is up (unless you want to have a military career, it's your choice, nothing wrong with serving our country), get an undergraduate college degree if you don't have one already, get a stable long-term non-military career, and find another woman when you can live in the states for the long term. You may feel like your life is crap now, but things will get much better soon.
Take care, and be safe. :-)
My Friend, you are in a rough spot.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people, men and women, who can't deal with the separation and end up breaking it off. Or worse, turning to Jody.
Here's what you do:
Talk to your Battle Buddy. Make sure he knows what's going on; you're going to need to get this out so you can keep eyes on the mission.
Does your squad leader and/or platoon sergeant know? Being older Soldiers, I guarantee they've been through it as well, and can be valuable sources of support.
If you can't talk to them, the Chaplain is a good place to go as well. As much as I know you may not want to hear this, you can also talk to the people at Behavioral Health at whatever FOB you may be operating out of. They can help, believe me.
I'm not trying to make you feel weak in any way, shape, or form. What I am saying is that you've taken a bad knock, and are in a bad place when you took it. Any help you may get can only make you stronger, and better able to perform your mission and help those Soldiers who will also go through what you're experiencing right now.
I wish you the best of luck.
be glad she is gone! better sooner than later.
She does not deserve your love, and you deserve someone much worthy than her.
Also, if she was a patriote she would have known that you are out there risking your life to protect your country.
When she comes back to you ( as I know she will) do not take her back!
She has no word and she is not loyal
Think of all the lovely ladies who will be gaga over you when you get back. They will be impressed that you served your country. Many women have their spouses in iraq and are faithful to them until they get back. You will find one of those and your impatient fiancee will be but a distant memory
She's worthless to break it off with you that way. She knew what she was getting into when she accepted your proposal. She's selfish and you're better off without her. If she honestly loved you, she'd wait 100 years if needed.
I'm sorry you're so sad....she picked a really crappy time to do this.
However be glad you found out now that she's a quitter.....what if you had married her?
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