My girlfriend and I have been dating for a bout 2 years and 3 months. During our relationship we have had our ups and downs; however, I messed up. I didn't do anything intentionally. Now we have had a pretty good relationship for about a whole year. But I am sick and tired of her throwing what I did in my face all day everyday. She is not happy but still wants to stay by my side. How do I let her know that the best thing to do is to break-up even though I still love her and have changed dramatically for her. But she doesn't see any of this.What is the easiest way to deal with a break-up that just needs to happen?
the best way is always the hardest. you need to sit her down and tell her what is bothering you. if she isn't willing to work things out and you are really done, then you need to tell her that it is over. if she is willing to work on her issues with and about you and you the same then work it out, give one another space. My man and I were together 8 years, we broke up and now we are working things out. Dr. Phil's relationship books has worked wonders. You both should try it.What is the easiest way to deal with a break-up that just needs to happen?
talk to her about it
If she can't forgive you and doesn't think maybe a trip to a counselor would work then just do the break up quick and simple like taking off a band aid
talk to her. just cuz you're not together, doesn't mean a good friendship will have to end also. There are differences. People grow... the more you stay in a relationship when one feelings have changed, it's not going to be a healthy relationship. there will be anger thrown around.
sit down and talk about it, then its make up sex after. or break up sex....
If you're 100% sure you want to break up, explain to her why (try not to raise your voice even if she raises hers)and get it over with. If you don't want to break up, just think of how much you hurt her feelings and how you would have felt if she hurt you that way. It takes alot of time to get over pain.
This woman is abusive. It doesn't matter whether what you did was intentional or not. She would have used any reason to be mad at you in an attempt to control you.
By changing you gave her power. She won't let go because she is being rewarded for her behavior by your caving in.
Breaking up with her will be ugly. Make sure you plan it carefully. No joint checking accounts or credit cards, get your own apartment ahead of time, save money and hide it from her. Make sure all the assets are in your name, all the liabilities under her name.
talk to her
If you cannot tolerate the current condition (and you shouldn't), then there is no need to beat a dead horse. Though it is easier said than done, if you feel that it is over, then tell her as much. Move on with your life and be done with it.
Life is too short to be miserable in any relationship. If you don't like the current state of affairs, then change them. Otherwise, I'd have to consider you a masochist or something. ;)
Why do you want to let her go if you still love her? If you love each other you should try to work things out. We all make mistakes in life and yes you cheated on her but she forgave you right? How do you know she didn't cheat on you when you were off and on? If you care about her that much you two will talk things out but if you think a break up is necessary then do so. I wish you luck!
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