How to deal w/ a break-up when my 4 year old is involved?

My boyfriend just broke up with me recently, breaking my heart, of course. We live together with my 4 year old son, who loves him. He says the only way we can maybe work things out is if we both go to therapy, which I'm fine w/. We can't go to couple's therapy, which is what we both wanted, because our schedules completely don't allow it. We both have full time jobs, and go to school, not to mention my son. The thing is, he wants to break up and work on possibly getting back together, though I don't see the point of breaking up if that's the case. I don't want to break up because I'm in love w/ him, which I've told him throughout our relationship, and he used to tell me as well. He now says he thinks he has fallen out of love with me. He says there's someone out there better for me than him. No matter what I tell him, he still wants to break up.How to deal w/ a break-up when my 4 year old is involved?
You need to ask him why he wants to break up, if the lines of communication are open then it should be to be figured out with out moving on.... but he might just be trying to break it to you gently....





You just need to schedule a time together... if means missing a class or calling in sick. Your relationship is important..





Maybe its because your not there enough and he wonders if the relationship is only just a convienient baby sitter for you ??? (sorry i went through that, not to hurt your feelings) can you see if your sons dad can become more involved so you can have more time with your boyfriend)





good luckHow to deal w/ a break-up when my 4 year old is involved?
you need to make time for the therapy. you need to move a class around, or work one less hour, do anything to make time for this.





your in a rough place right now and you need to adjust yourself to fill this need of his before you lose him. you need to get to the root of the issues and fix them... and you cant do that on your own.
For starters, your SON should be your first priority NOT yourself, your boy friend, or your education.





You should either drop out of school and find your own place to live with your son or consider moving closer to family who can help out with your son while you are in school.





he's using you as an unpaid prostitute and has no respect for you if that's the way he's acting.





As long as you have a minor child to take care of, you should not be dating and certainly not shacking up.





Think about the message this is sending your son about how he can treat girls and women later in life.





Mommy was fine with being just his girlfriend and didn't get any respect from him so I don't have to respect girls as anything other than someone to take care of what I want.





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Reading all you have said, perhaps space is what you both need. You may not see the point in it right now, but time and space can really make you see and reflect on what you had. Hopefully love will grow back with time and at that point you can make a real go at the relationship again. Holding him back is only going to prolong agony.