How to deal with a guy who is dict into porn too much?

I'm a 40 yr old woman, and I'm dating a man who is 42 yrs old. He has never been married before but certainly had some relationships. The first couple months when we just started dating, our sexual experience was fantastic, then later on that part of thing was getting less and less. Now we've been dating for 9 months, he even doesn't try to kiss me anymore, and when we are holding each other sometimes, he even never try to touch me. I felt shamed of myself cuz I thought I couldn't turn him on. Last night I finally decided to break up with him cuz I couldn't handle it any more. He came to me today, and told me the truth was he's been dicted in porn all the time. He plays with himself 2 or 3 times a day. Because of he played with himself too much, he even doesn't know how to show emotion when he's making love with me. He feels sorry for me, and has been trying to cut off it, but he couldn't help himself. When he was telling me this biggest secret, I could see through his eyes that he really loves me, and he didn't want to lose me. I have to say I really love this man too, but the question is how can I help this issue? He kept saying he will try his best to fix his problem, but is this kind of problem fixable, at all?! I'm so sad if we have to break up because of this reason. Is there any other solution?How to deal with a guy who is dict into porn too much?
Carrie, come on….





You’re old enough to know that every relationship is exciting in the beginning then it begins to fade and ones TRUE COLORS come out.





Please don’t fall into the category of trying to change him – it doesn’t work, it never works……..he is who he is and he’s only going to change if ****HE**** wants too.





I strongly suggest moving on from this man and letting him figure out his addition problems, if you stay around you will only become an enabler.





Raise your standards and find a man who has spirituality in his life and takes morality very seriously, this will benefit YOU and your relationship more than I can put into words.How to deal with a guy who is dict into porn too much?
Therapy?


Join him only if you'd be okay with that of course.





I have a friend whom is a porn addict %26amp; he will not give that up for any girl. He's had relationships, but nothing serious.


If he's been doing it for years it's going to be hard to change.
Give him an ultimatum. Either he seeks help/makes a conscious effot to stop, or you leave him.





One way is he can block all x-rated websites on his computer with a password that only you know.
turn off the internet and start walking around naked
Porn addiction is like any other addiction. He needs to get help. It's on him, though. Not you.
watch the porn with him and YOU play with him instead of himself.
The only solution is for him to stop - if he watches porn instead of being in a healthy relationship - he needs to find help for himself.





But there is nothing you can do - it has to be him who wants to stop and it doesn't' sound like he does





Men sometimes - get afraid of commitment - he sounds like one - and is using porn as his excuse to not have a relationship with you





Move on - find a guy who wants a relationship